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I was shushed

Iammesues
Iammesues

In an argument with my husband he told me to stop talking. Stop making my point cuz he disagrees. He said shush! I said don’t shush me. He said I can shush you. Have any women been shushed by a man? It’s so disgusting and rude. What an asshole he is.

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Other people get a hundred replies, I get one, usually nine I mean noneCatman

Death

☠️

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Catman22

Same, sometimes this site - mental health is a bit slow - late night or morning users!

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hidden

It’s not slow..

I just don’t get any replies at all..

I did get one though..

He asked if I’m on medications in PM

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Catman22

So sorry, I would help if I can and if I am useful and my back and sides have been hurting, otherwise I love replying

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hidden

Yeah - like who I thought was a friend just said,

I am here...

so comforting when she iced and ghosted me this week

with I explanation why

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Catman22

Sometimes it can be hard to be positive and inspiring to other and careful thought is not put on - may not be worthy of response or general depressed state all and not being able to do things - but I will try harder to respond as I know will cheer up someone and you - try to remain positive support while others are failing

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Hidden

I am going to put on deep heat cream but always remain with your gentle heart and kind words - they mean alot

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hidden

I agree that my posts are not worthy of a response or reply...

How do I fix what I am done wrong ??

and what is it I am doing wrong ???

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Catman22

Generally people have deep emotions and able to put it in words, articulate but where they leave a question or argument that elicits a response - just best to be yourself - and use terms that you researched on the matter is another helpful thing people do - using internet . Explaining a problem, worries or concerns properly in detail - is what people are good at doing and people may be able to help. But don't doubt yourself people usually like reply than post which is difficult to reply to. Just a thought, can ignore if want - it'd not you and not that people are uncaring but they are going through alot

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hidden

I do all of these things...

I get liked liked like crazy,

but no responses at all ever...

I begged openly for replies once before, and got a few...

Nobody else has to beg at all...

I think that I say is just Way to Personal and cutting..

I make people cry repeatedly in my own personal like, just by saying a sentence or two..

The guards in jail said I am good with words...

I made two call girls and a homeless guy cry like crazy by saying a few things...

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

I apologize for making them cry

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hidden

All Mixed Up

by The Cars

🤷‍♂️

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

☹️

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

😥

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

I am sorry

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Hb2003

I was not feeling well I still am not but I am trying my best

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

Then why do you talk endlessly to everyone else, but say nothing at all to me, or give me a charity 2 or 3 words ??

😔

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

And you are “So done with me and are deleting all of my posts “

which even offended administration...

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

Catman22 how are they offended that I deleted my posts

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Hb2003

I did nothing wrong

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

I agree

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

Why did you say -

“I am so done with you, I am deleting all of your posts “

the other day ???

😩

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

I never said that

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

You deleted it...

It’s tough to climb out of a hole,

once you’ve dug one and climbed in....

Don’t lie to HU again

🤥

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

Oh my god I deleted a post so what

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

You said all of my posts

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

Go eat your m and ms

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Hb2003

I am fine

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

That’s the point, that you are fine

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

and I am not

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

You want to keep ducking it out with -

the Catman ???

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

Liar liar

skirts on Fire

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

THATS IT

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Hb2003

Please do not respond to this person anymore.

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Catman22

please don’t do this right now

Hb2003
Hb2003 in reply to Hb2003

I am already having a horrible week

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Hb2003

Hb2003 please don't respond with this person anymore he's being abusive and I'm reporting him

Isinatra
Isinatra in reply to Luna_Child

I agree. Report ASAP.

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Isinatra

Done deal x 2. Anyone can also report as they wish

Thanks everyone!

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Hb2003

I’m leaving to have some peanut m+m’s

😜

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

I should have PM’d all of that -

I’m brutal with words

everyone tells me

that

☹️

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Catman22

Are you threatening her? ! Stop now! I've reported you.

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

No

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Catman22

You did. You think before you write to anyone here. You are reported for your abusive behavior. I don't want to hear from you at all

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

It’s okay -

It’s not really possible

to like everybody

☹️

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Catman22

Leave her alone! Got that!?

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

I apologize to her parents

👨‍👩‍👧

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

My Bad on that

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Catman22

I wish you and ratman would forgive

me too -

I can have a Big Mouth

🕊

☮️

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Catman22

And it just got you reported a few times.

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

I’m aware of my being reported,

more than once

😢

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

Please stop hurting me Luna

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Catman22

You were abusive to this innocent girl that did nothing to you. I reported you twice. I don't reply to abusive rude people who've been warned by HU many times. I will not respond to you any longer.

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

I’m sorry for that

I didn’t mean to cause so much harm

Can you ask ratman to maybe say hi ??

I would just Love to hear from him...

He was So Kind to me,

in a way I will Never forget

Loser man

Chris

😢

Catman22
Catman22 in reply to Luna_Child

She was unkind too

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Hidden

Hi , oh I've had worse than a shush!! Hey mabey when you two are sitting having you're dinner and chatting you should shush him just to make you're point🤣 no it's very rude and underminding it would have made my blood boil, what did you do once he had shushed you?

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Hidden

I continued with my point then left the room. He’s a real jerk

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Iammesues

Well I'm glad you stood you're ground and continued what you were saying. Yes it's not nice being devalued like that. Yup what an jerk!!

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Hidden

What did you do when it happened to you?

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Iammesues

At the start till about half way through the relationship I he had me convinced that I wasn't worthy for the gutter so I used to wiper to his every word, till one day I don't know something happend and I realised no ,, no this is not right took me five years to gather the physical and mental strength to get rid. I realised my point of view was just as important as everyone else and now I stand a polite firm ground with anybody who trys to put me down that way. You have to tell him never ever will you put up with being treated like that it's foul! ⭐⭐

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Hidden

Thank you for sharing. I wish I had your strength

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Iammesues

You do just everyone finds it at different times 👍👍⭐⭐ you'll get there 😊

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Hidden

I napped all afternoon. I say napped but I mean stayed under the blankets crying. Now I need to eat dinner with asshole husband and daughter so looks fine for her. So painful to be an actress

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Iammesues

Don't be, let it go slowly , you're only human you have feelings there's only so much one can take. Let him know it's time for a change things need to move on you've had enough and enough is enough . You only have one life,,,,, this is you're shot to go live it , you deserve to be treated with respect and live happily ⭐⭐

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Hidden

Thank you Loki777. It is time for a change

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

Absolutley!!!👍

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Iammesues

Yes do it for you , you go girl kick some butt😊😊👍

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Hidden

Makes my blood boil too.

Yes absolutely. My husband would tell me shut up b****, and use other words under his breath.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Luna_Child

Hi Lina hope you are doing well. Yes the muttering of abuseve words riled me up even more it was like " I can hear you , you dumb f*** , just scream it in my face don't mutter away you bitter twisted fool" sorry just hits a soft spot , you know how it is .

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Hidden

Oh yes I do! 😠

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

Oh Luna_ Child, I feel so stuck. It’s killing me that I haven’t told my friends or family anything. My mother is 78, lives nearby, and is always commenting on how quiet I’ve become. If I tell her my husband is a problem she will insist I leave immediately. I’m the bread winner here.

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

I hear you. We've been through marriage therapy. Is that a possibility? Is there a close friend you can confide in? If you're the breadwinner isn't that a good thing? Does he work?

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

He barely works due to Covid. I feel if I tell anyone I look like an idiot for constantly taking verbal abuse.

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

You're not an idiot. He's the idiot for doing that to his wife. One other bad side of COVID lockdown and being out of work is the domestic violence rate has skyrocketed!

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

Moms know when something is up with their daughters. It's radar. My mom is going to be 83 Christmas day. She knew by my voice even though I tried hard to talk normal

If only

Covid has skyrocketed domestic violence people are tense out of work on different schedule worried scared etc....hense domestic violence.

Covid has really put relationship's to the test. During lockdown people are in each other's way 24/7. I would assume lovely at first but that's not their norm. Then you get on each others nerves. My state isn't the only state that domestic violence increased. It's not just men either women do it too it's just under reported.

It's been a long time lifestyles have completely changed.

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

Yes I’m used to traveling for work

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

Well good you get out but you're not traveling now right? Too risky

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

If you need to chat please message me

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

Thank you. Your offer is so kind. No- I’m not traveling now

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

So you're around each other a lot close quarters....do you have hobbies, other support, drawing, coloring.the adult coloring books, reading TV cooking baking etc..anything to keep busy so there's less stress. Sometimes I fake sleep...and I have insomnia

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

I fake sleep too. I hide under blankets all snuggled eyes closed. I run through stories in my head of being on the beach, watching the sunrise, eating a breakfast with a kind man. I run the same stories in my head each day. Brings me moments of peace

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Iammesues

OMG me too!!!!

Iammesues
Iammesues in reply to Luna_Child

You run through stories too?

That's really sweet 🤗❤️

I agree.

I'm confused you got on your knee...are you married at 19?

Look past...?

So you're in a different state than your family? College?

Already did that

Gotcha

Hidden
Hidden

Wow I wish shush was the worse thing I guy has said to me. Did he always speak to you like this before you were married? I don't know the state of your marriage but I would discuss with him as calmly as possible that you won't tolerate being talked to that way. Set boundaries & talk about why it hurt you for him to say something so rude to someone he is supposed to love. Nip it in the bud & don't bury the feelings to fester into resentment. Open communication may be the best course of action & if he continues to treat you inappropriately you might need to consider other options like marriage counselling. We are treated in the manner we tolerate. Don't let it snowball into something worse. I'm sorry he was so rude & upset you. But that is something he should really be saying.

You go girl! Rude is so right! If that was a one time thing, if it was me, I would let it go after a serious discussion and an apology. But if it became a habit, well, that’s a different scenario....

LOL

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Isinatra

Lol

We should all be polite and understanding to each other, Sometimes things are said and regretted, repeated as an irritant. then we all end up in a very unhappy situation. You deserve respect and you should not need to argue about it. Your husband needs to grow up, and both of you need to know each others needs and expectations.

I did something similar when I first got married, then we both agreed to watch and respect each other If you cannot show respect other problems may arise as a bridge has been crossed

BOB

Tell H I was blocked by Saskia

Hidden
Hidden

It's ok I married when I was 16 🤣🤣

Luna_Child
Luna_Child in reply to Hidden

I almost did at 19 but got married at 38

Hidden
Hidden

I know totally well me and my ex thaught we knew everything and we were warned by our parents but I suppose at that age you just don't listen. Anyway we got married had a gorgeous daughter but unfortunately the marriage did not last , to much to young. We stayed friends in fact we are best friends and our daughter is now 20 years old.

Hidden
Hidden

You got that right 😊😊👍👍

Does your husband always treat u this way? You are ALOUD to voice your own opinions and he may not agree but he should RESPECT them

My husband and I tell each other to shush all the time!

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