Digging out of depression!

[jol1pjl1]

Hi all,

New to this forum as being looking for somewhere to discuss with other sufferers.

I am nearly 40. Married with two young, wonderful children. For the last 5years I have slowly slowly slipped into this. Last year I had a short spell on AD’s. Things got better for a brief time but now slipped back into a very morbid cba type mood all the time. I used to be a very very hard working, driven but somehow everything has just become virtually impossible. I would never get to the point of doing anything stupid but this life is just soul destroying.

I am seeking info on the best way to get out of this and reverse the vicious circle. I found the side affects if pills very hard and want to look for alternatives. I’m out of shape and very unfit (but don’t look it). Nothing floats my boat at all..... Hobbies, sex, socialising, business....nothing. All I feel like doing is lying about or better still sleeping because this way I’m not worrying about it? My whole day is consumed by thinking about what is going on if that makes sense!?

Any help much appreciated.

R

[Beautifulrainbow]

Hello and welcome to this lovely caring forum, I'm sorry you feel the way you do. And it's so sad, to hear you can't really enjoy your beautiful children, because of the way you feel. I've felt like that for years and really don't know, what's gone wrong, I, used to be out going, caring, loving and very supportive, but all I, do all now is sit in my chair and can't wait for the day to end. Have you had a talking therapy, because that could help you, sometimes we can't talk to family but having someone outside, the home could help, maybe you need to go back to your doctor and have a discussion about seeing someone. I wish you the best of luck. X

[jol1pjl1]

Thanks for that.

Has anyone any stories of how they cope with the situation day to day? I keep hearing good exercise routine can help? Thing is, I suppose anyone who has got through it won’t be looking at forums like these anymore!?

I’m panicking about starting a new year feeling like this!👎

[Sarah1111111 Ambassador in reply to jol1pjl1]

Exercise does help. I couldn’t leave the house so got a stepper if freecycle and used that. Now i try to go out for a walk, even if it’s just 10mins in my lunch break to the shop.

[Sarah1111111 Ambassador]

I find setting a small, sometimes very small target, each day can be helpful. Even like getting dressed, buying milk, eating some food can be my targets when I’m unwell. They help me feel that I have achieved something that matters. As I got better I started to try and make the targets things like watch a funny film, or phone a friend (although this one often ended up being text). Basically anything I thought might help me feel better. I also allowed myself treats like a face mask or foot soak to try and show myself that I mattered. I hope you manage to find your motivation and enjoyment t again. At first you do things because you know you need to do something but eventually it does change and you find you are enjoying them again. X

[jol1pjl1]

The thing I don’t understand is how I got like this. As I said I have a wonderful family. Earn decent money. Minimal debt...... my mind just seems to have become very complexed over recent years. I over think everything and worry what everyone thinks of me.

I work in agriculture which can be very lonely at times. I wonder if this has anything to do with it??

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Hi there

I'm so sorry you feel this way, I know how horrible it can be. I had Post Natal Depression many years ago and I had never had depression before that. Fortunately after about 5 months I was fine. A few years later when my daughter was 25 she tried to take her life (I often wondered if having the PND was the cause of her also suffering with depression) and 6 months after that my dear mum died very suddenly in front of me, there was no warning, she just slumped to the side and she was dead. As you can imagine I spiralled in to depression as I couldn't cope, I took Citalapram for quite a while and then eventually came off them.

I am very pleased to say that all I get now is the odd down day but no more and I'm pretty sure the exercise I do is the result of feeling much better and I am also a Vegan and try and eat healthily as much as I can, I only eat the odd bit of Vegan chocolate (a little more at present as some was given to me for Christmas) but all in all I eat very well.

Also, there is a Programme called 'The Thrive Programme'

thriveprogramme.org/

I bought the Thrive Programme book on Emetophobia (fear of being sick and fear of tummy bugs/norovirus etc) and worked my way through it and had CBT as well. I would definitely recommend the Programme. Also, many years ago I had Hypnotherapy for my Emetophobia and was cured, the only reason it came back was because I was bullied by the person I worked for.

There is a solution out there and first and foremost I would definitely start exercising and eating well and then have a look at the Programme.

I'm thinking of you, you can beat this. xx