I need help

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Me and my long term girlfriend of 3 years have broken up. Since I have felt in a hole, just completely numb and empty. Every time I try to eat I feel like throwing up. I'm skipping breakfast and lunch and having about 1/2 a meal per day in the evenings. I cannot sleep properly and am probably getting about 4 hours sleep a night. I feel lifeless and pretty worthless. I have never been like this before. I do not know what to do. I do not know if this will pass. I do not know if this will worsen. I just feel that life is pretty petty and meaningless at the moment.

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Sometimes breaking up with a Partner of several years can be like a death, we worry what now and considering what has caused the break that can make you wonder the reasons you have had to walk away from this partner you have known for those many years

Sometimes confidence and finding someone new can also feel problematic. You need to give yourself time to consider what you want to do now, it can also be important you have time to think and make informed choices when looking for someone else. Looking for a new partner to soon can also cause problems of comparison to your old Partner, or push yourself into an unsatisfactory new relationship as you are still grinding your teeth at the loss you have just suffered.

Of course you could start straight away looking for a serious mate, however your judgement may be questionable, you need to let your head rule your heart before you make any long term decisions.

You have not mentioned what has caused your breakup, situations, relationships go through bad times and people do have second thoughts of a person and disagreements can be brought about I can be be so many different things.

My earlier relationship broke up and before I looked for a new Partner, my Wife I took time out and followed a different pathway so it forced me back looking for new friends and meeting people. I took various examinations, I also learned how to dance and this opened up other pathways, I did not marry anyone from that activity it did however give me confidence to meet people and move on as I had come to terms with that earlier loss

BOB

[Lettiejp in reply to Hidden]

Great advice. I struggle with relationships. You are so lucky to have had someone so long. My longest relationship was 2 and half years. I haven't really found anyone I've ever really loved. I've only loved my mum. Men are complicated creatures. They play games and vanish on women. I don't need all that. A guy I like is so strange he kept disappearing on me so I've blocked him and won't speak to him because his behaviour is childish and selfish.

[Hidden in reply to Lettiejp]

As we get older and when a relationship has gone on for a long time, we find we have to much invested in the relationship and sad to say, it can sometimes be more of a deep friendship as we push on through life together we do many things on autopilot.

I is fantastic to still have love for family, in my case that door closed some time ago and now with no children we find our family dog Pax can fill in a void and that can help in many ways.

I never disappear in this relationship, I have no-where to go other than the garden or library so we always know where everyone is however Pax wonders off and He knows all the places to hide when He wants peace and quiet.

It is important in relationships you both have the same interests and expectations, we now know what each are thinking about and our interests are very much the same.

BOB