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Loving someone- is it a weakness or a strength

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Today my boyfriend told me he may get married to some girl. I went into state of panic. In that state of panic, I said Okay go and marry but also keep my along side. I said this because I dont wanna lose him. If i would have said lets part ways, he would have agreed to that or maybe not but I have a fear he will.

and you know what? he tells me, ‘ such a weak person you are’

he doesnt see that I love him so much that i can even accept another person in his life just to be with him, but in fact he calls me weak.

it kills me

its eating me from inside

How could he say this to me

I feel small, dejected and I wish I die.

I dont want to kill myself, I just wish something happens that automatically kills me so that I dont have the burden that I kills myself

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kiwibutterfly

So sorry to hear this. He sounds like he's teasing and using you and that's nasty. Do you have anyone else to talk to and get out for a walk with to CHAT?

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i do

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DiamondHeart

Hey ,

How old are you ? Im sorry to be nosey but when i was young i was the same.

My first boyfriend i adored , though this is it now me and him forever , unfortunately life happens.

Things happen and people change and thats ok , theres a million of things your yet to expreince people to meet and alot more to life.

I depended so much on a man and its not healthy , you need to be strong and find out who you are without an additional person in your life.

That boyfriend i thought i couldnt live without i now walk by every morning on the school run him with his kids and me with mine , and i just think of the happy times ALL those years ago we have a smile and carry on with our day ...

Life goes on xx

in reply toDiamondHeart

thanks

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i am 27

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Hi my self i'd say ok that's fine by me as i'l marry A as he is hunky and has an XL package! Think you'd soon see a change.

Also Stand up for yourself don't let yourself become a door mat!

Learn to do things for yourself pleasing you not others so become a stronger person you will find others find you then and this piece of garbage will be history if continues to taunt you because that it what it is if says that way with an aim to undermine you and confidence?

I'd rather be on my own and learn to enjoy life than spend with someone that isn't as a proper partner.

So next time they come out with things like that just say Bye see you! and walk away yes is hard but next day you will thank yourself and after a while you will realise your far better off without him and get on with life as every day is new you could walk round the corner and Whoo meet someone very special.

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I think he is causing you harm. If you can find it in you, think about leaving him, no decent human being would treat anyone like that. Your not weak, he is a bully.

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