Just a few days ago, I remembered an incident when I had a thought of doing something wrong, it was like 6 years ago. Back then, I was about to do it but then I stopped and didn't do it. It never bothered me till now. But when I thought about this incident just a few days ago I started getting a feeling that what if I didn't really stop then and actually did it. I just couldn't stop thinking about it and started doubting myself. I kept replaying the whole incident in my mind so that I can convince myself that I did stop but it just made it worse. Now I'm very confused and I'm feeling guilty even though I'm consciously aware that I didn't do it. I really don't remember doing anything but I have a fear that what if I have done it but then forgot about it. I don't know what to do...
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I would have definitely regretted it. Its not that I was going to harm someone in anyway. Just that it was against my morals and I think was glad that I didn't do it. But now I'm not sure If i did it or not.
Does it matter? You have allowed this thought to become an obsession and take over your life. The more you obsess over something the more you will if you see what I mean. Every time you start going down this path wrench your thoughts away and either think or something else or do something. This is very hard at first but continue doing it and it does get easier. As you think less about it then the less you will think about it.
Maybe you are having a crisis of confidence in your life or an identity crisis? If so try and figure out what is causing it and what you can do about it. This could very well be a symptom of it. x
I agree. I do have low self Confidence but I have no idea why. And I have this problem of over thinking. Whenever I have a conversation with anyone, I keep over thinking and analyzing it in my mind to check if I said something wrong. I just can't enjoy any conversation that I have cuz of this. I don't know how to stop having these negative thoughts and be more confident.
To me this is an indicator that you had problems perhaps in your childhood that you have buried? Might this be the case? If so they don't remain buried forever and start to 'leak' round the edges. Maybe this is behind your lack of self confidence and over thinking? There are usually reasons behind our behaviour so what you have to do is find and try and sort them. Maybe a counsellor could help you?
Mindfulness should definitely help though so google it. This is all about living in the present and should help to keep your mind off the past so much. x
It might not be that but other things. Maybe you have had a very traumatic experience in adulthood and haven't fully dealt with it? Not everything can be traced back to childhood though in my experience most are.
It is stealing you of valuable time ruminating over the past .. Whatever did or didn't happen you cannot change it but you can change your thoughts about it starting now .. Time is too valuable to waste
That is true. I know that I'm just wasting my time by over thinking about it. But even when I try to divert my mind, I feel very uneasy. I don't want to think about it but I don't know how to stop myself from doing that.
I understand you .. You mention low confidence so rebuilding it by the use of positive affirmations is a good way to start .. They are helpful to re-program our thought patterns and change they way we think and feel about things and ourselves .. They help us to focus on goals and get rid of negative beliefs and program our subconscious mind .. For example one could be ; I choose inner peace over internal conflict .. Having a goal to work towards also helps .. You won't have time to think of anything else but your goal
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