Lonely

Just overwhelmed with loneliness. It is what it is. Somehow I have to just keep moving forward. Just venting sorry.

[sliverofsilver]

Hi Sports_Fan,

It’s alright, there’s no need to apologise, feel free to vent again!

I hope your loneliness passes soon. You’re right in that you have to keep moving forwards, but I believe in you- you can find something or someone that makes you less lonely.

Best wishes,

-sliverofsilver

[Stilltrying_]

Are you in the UK? (Sorry, just seen you're in the US) It is so cold here and dark. I find when I get home from my voluntary work that I feel a bit frightened. All alone. I do have friends but I tend to see them during the day. I know they are there for me but I understand the feeling of lonliness. I have just been to the supermarket. It is crazy that there are so many people walking around and yet so many people are on their own. You can't go up to a stranger and say "be my friend". I often think about things like this. I guess being in this group helps me. I am 60. You look like a nice person. I wonder why you are so lonely? Having said that I am a lovely person and yes I am lonely. I have some good friends but I still feel a bit frightened and lonely when I stop and think about it. So little family. That is my problem. Only my dad who is 95 and my sister who lives in France and her daughter and her husband. Do you have family? Do you live alone? Gemma x

[Hidden in reply to Stilltrying_]

I do have a family so I don’t live alone. I feel isolated though. I basically just work go home go to sleep wake up and do it all over again. No time for anything else. I just want someone to chat with. I live in Washington state so it’s cold and gloomy here also just like I the UK I would imagine. I did one of those DNA tests and I am 3/4 UK. lol that’s what it said anyways

[Stilltrying_ in reply to Hidden]

OK. Well I'm happy to chat. The cold weather makes a big difference to how we feel. It is so deeply dark here; it just gets black and that is scary as you feel sort of shut in your house and can't go out because it is so black out there so early. It's dark at 4.30 pm here now. Time now in the UK is 6.40pm and it feels like midnight!!! I'm going to have a look on here and then maybe later browse some Christmas films online. I find distraction helps. If I sit and think about my situation of being alone i get more scared. We are all alone in a way as even if we have someone there is no guarantee they will last forever. I am facing my dad being 95 and knowing realistically that he won't have than many years left in him and it could even be months, though he is pretty healthy. He is a good example though as he is very self sufficient. He spends most of his time watching TV but also does all his own washing and ironing every single week, even irons his underclothes and he cooks for himself ( in a fashion; microwave meals). He isn't scared of dying whereas I have always been terrified. It always felt so horrible that we are born only to die; I've never been able to get my head round that but i think more and more nowadays that is because I haven't really lived. I was abused by my mum for over 50 years and my dad did not step in to help; just left us with her really (didn't see it as his job to intervene in "bringing us up"). Since she died 4 years ago I went through a desperate time of grief for all I haven't had in life and now seem to be emerging . Since I've been feeling better I am a bit less scared of death though I still see life as more or less a cruel joke if I am honest. XX

[Alliea79 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Ugh. I hear you. I’m in Maine. Moved here to this desolate place over the summer for my husbands work. I however don’t work. My daughter and dogs need a lot of figuring out to get them healthy and a proper education despite disabilities. So. I’m home. All day. Like it was said, I get out. Do errands. See people. But have no connections I slept til ten this am, a Sunday. I was awake in bed. But couldn’t figure out any reason it made any difference in anyone’s world.

[bepete in reply to Hidden]

I think you need too lay off the long hours at work, believe me it doesn't do you any good, then you've got more time to socialise, consider classes on your favourite subjects as a way of socializing, it will eventually pay off.

[Hidden in reply to bepete]

Yep you are correct. I need to be purposeful and try to socialize. Classes are a good idea!

[bepete in reply to Hidden]

Purposeful is the significant word here I used to love my classes and it did help me get out of my anxiety,

[sweetiepye]

From the reading I've done and the web sites I've been on loneliness is by far the biggest problem people have. I am working on this myself.I'm thinking about joining a few groups , reading club, charity shop , continuing education classes, a writing class. You have to go to the places you like to find like minded people and it takes time to form friendships. A pet can also ease the feeling of being alone if you are able to have one. Pam

[Hidden]

Same here,send me a message if you need to talk