Update: **trigger warning** Self harm

[AnxiousHeart14]

I’m in a bit of a situation and I don’t know what to do.

So I posted on here a couple nights ago explaining that I’d self harmed. So today has been a very warm day and I really needed to wear short sleeves. I never do this. So I decided to try cover the marks with a bit of make up but obviously make up can’t cover it all.

I was helping my mum do some gardening when she said “what happened to your arm there” (she knows about my depression and knows I’m on antidepressants). I told her that I’d just scratched it when I was gardening with her, then she grabbed my arm and took a real close look at all the marks. So she knows. She said “you’d better not be lying to me” and I said I wasn’t and I went back to my room.

I really don’t know what to do. She knows, I know she does. But I don’t know what to say to her, because she won’t understand. I’m so stupid. Should have just kept long sleeves on...

[krazy-girl]

Hi AnxiousHeart14. I've been there. I'd be up front and tell her, she might not know just HOW MUCH pain you are carrying around with you! Give her a chance to help. She loves you and you are her child. This might not be easy, in fact it will be very hard. But in the long run it's better than "hiding" this from her. Even if she knows that you self harm, she "can't" stop it from happening! That my dear has to be your will. I myself have scars all over my body and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! You are hurting her each time you self harm. It's just the way mothers "love" their children. I haven't self harmed in 25-30 years but I carry my scars visable, I am not ashamed of who I am and what I've gone through! And if you ever want to talk I'm available!

[AnxiousHeart14 in reply to krazy-girl]

Thank you so much! I will try and speak to her, appreciate your reply xx

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello AnxiousHeart, Now it is out in the open it is time to try and chat with your Mum about it. It won't be easy but as you say she has guessed and it's better to talk with her because she will try to understand - simply put you are still her little girl, she loves you and wants the best for you. If it helps to start talking why not show her this community and the 'related posts', 'pinned posts' on the screen. I take it that your health professional knows about the self harming, if not please tell them and if you can't say it show them.

Good luck and please still keep talking with us and putting up your posts.

Best wishes.

MAS Nurse.

[Shadow123-]

Dont let this go on- forgive my assumptions but you sound quite young. When i was 16 i slashed my wrists in front of my parents. A cry for help but they had no idea how i was feeling. Now i am 52 Ive still got both parents but i will never forgive myself for what i put them through. Suffered with depression ever since puberty but being able to tell someone can often allow u to see things from different perspective. If your mum doesnt get in then contact docs or other mentioned groups. You are not alone darlin. Love n peace 🖤