Is it just me or is it serious?

[Hshaffer13]

Okay so when I was in high school I was very very very active I played traveling Sports I was constantly on the go constantly in the gym working out and fast forward almost 10 years later and now I am married and I have a 5 year old son and of course as you can imagine I no longer play sports like I used to or am I nearly as active and from that of course I have put on weight which I absolutely hate but my main concern is I find myself not being motivated about anything literally I just wake up in the morning and I just want to do nothing I want to lay around and do nothing I literally don't know if this is something serious or if this is just a phase or what it is and I need to get a handle on it because it's going to hurt my marriage I am literally tired of feeling so useless at such a young age I have goals and Ambitions in life I mean that's not the problem I want to work with animals someday but as far as being able to have a steady job I'm not able to do that either because I find myself not motivated or passionate about really anything anymore I look back at my life and where I was 10 years ago and I just think to myself I would do anything to go back there and be that young again even though I'm only 27 years old but to me to think like that when I am so young still it just it bothers me I can't help it feel like I'm supposed to have my life together and I don't and I'm so lucky to be able to have a husband and to be a mom and have a little boy that loves me but I am worried for myself because I don't know if this is something Medical or if I really become this lazy and the fact that I could ever become like this hurts me because I was never this way and I think there's a lot of underlying issues that goes with all of this chill like I don't have a whole lot of friends here and I miss my best friends who are 3 hours away from me and I kind of feel like I'm not supported here the ways that I would be back home which is sad to say but back to the main issue I need help figuring out if I just really need to get my act together and grow up and start doing things again or if this is something serious because part of me thinks that I need some sort of help so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Marshall64]

Your doctor could run some test to check your thyroid function, vitamin D level, testosterone level, etc.

Depression can also cause fatigue.

[Marylyn]

Hi you probably are low in vitamin B12 or iron .Ask for your folate , active vit b12 ,ferritin Iron vit D ,Thyroid levels .Many meds like hormones,antiacids,antidepressants ,antibiotics,metformin deplete vitamins.

[Eternity78]

First of all ..this is normal we all have been there in some times of our lives ..So don't worry ..but just to be on the safe side ..try to have some medical tests done as the other replies have mentioned to rule out any physical health issues .

Second ..the answer is in your post it self ! saying " you are tired of feeling useless at such a young age " So ..maybe if you try to take some courses/ classes in a field that you like such as animal care ..you will get distracted and get your self esteem back and feel good about yourself again .

I also sense from your post that you're some how a bit "home sick " you miss your old circle of support " old friends and back home " and i know that far relations are difficult to keep up with so you might consider creating your own circle of support locally by bonding more with neighbours and new friends and have weekly or even monthly gathering with them ..if you feel comfortable being around them .

Hope you feel better soon 🌹

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Hshaffer

Twenty seven years old with a five year old child, married. You have it all, although you wonder why you are not taking part in any activities like you used to.

i do not know where you are in the world, that is not really important.

Would you consider diversions ? where the three of you would do an activity together, you would all feel the benefit. Cycling, swimming, walking in the countryside, Park etc. that would help you all to bond, whatever,

Whatever you all like doing, discuss and see how you go.

BOB