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Emillward
Emillward

Hello everyone, my name is Beth and I am new to this site. I am reaching out for support as well and hopefully one day the opportunity to help others. I recently lost my husband to suicide and am left to care for three children. The guilt and depression consumes me and most days I want to shut down but I cannot. My children are very challenging at this time and I can't even take a moment alone to breathe. I have returned to work and feel so depressed and hopeless. I am hoping to meet others who have survived this daily hell that I am faced to deal with alone.

Thank you,

Beth

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Hello Beth,

Welcome to our supportive community. Thank you for reaching out to us for support, we are here for each other and are listening. I am so sorry that you have recently lost your husband in such a traumatic way. I can only imagine how you must be feeling, and words seem very inadequate at a time like this. The depths of your grief must feel overwhelming. For yours and your children's sake please get some professional medical advice from your doctor as soon as possible. You need to take care of your own health and mental health too.

I include a link to some useful sites that can offer you some specific bereavement support:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) : uksobs.org/

SOBS National Helpline 0300 111 5065 9am-9pm Monday to Friday

Bereavement - Royal College of Psychiatrists (UK)https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfoforall/problems/bereavement/bereavement.aspx

Cruse Bereavement: cruse.org.uk/home Tel: 0808 808 1677

Hopefully you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

Do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, international crisis support helplines etc.

We are here for you. Keep in touch. Stay safe.

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

Hi Beth, and welcome to the site. You'll meet lots of lovely, friendly people here. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. It must be hard enough coming to terms with your own grief, without the added pressure of managing the emotions of your three children. How old are they? x

Emillward
Emillward
in reply to Suzie40

Hi Suzie, thank you!! They are 11, 9 and 5.

I just want to reach out and give you a hug and be a friend. What you are going through is absolutely heartbreaking. There are many here who want to help. I’m sure they don’t know where to start. If you go through the posts, so many are lost, so many are worn down and so many are broken. Then they get a few encouraging replies and they perk up. They get up. They find strength in eachother. I’d encourage you to join a support group for others left behind by suicide. There are so many. I came to this network at a very low point. Many of us do. Sending you love and strength and hope.

thank you so very much!!

Thinking of you. Picturing a lioness with her cubs. The storm is passing overhead. Spring has come. There are many more challenges ahead but you are a unit and you’ll be stronger for all the suffering. Hunker down in that dark cave now, among all the thorns. Lick your wounds. Cry. Let your cubs lick your tears. You’re going to have the strength to help others through this and incredible gifts will come from this terrible pain. Be healed. In time you’ll come out of this. Love and blessings to you Lioness.

How are you Beth? Just checking in. Hoping you are finding space to breathe and take even the smallest steps forward. Even if they feel small they are huge. Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and your kiddos and you have support and friends here.

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