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12 year breakup


3 weeks ago my partner of 12 years and i broke up, we have been together since we were 16 and think we just grew apart. I have been trying to keep myself together but i a really struggling. We are still in contact a little, but thats because we care for each other still, but know we shouldn't be toegther. I have not been eating and lost a lot of weight, i a only petite as it is, bit have lost 4 pounds. Mentally i am struggling a great deal, and just dont know what to do. I have had some dark thoughts, but am trying to keep myself strong.

Does any one have any advise? i just dont know how to cope?


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Hi Cocolola and welcome to this caring forum. I am sorry to hear about your relationship with your partner breaking up. Twelve years is a long time but you will move forwards from this. You recognised that the relationship was not working, and sometimes these things happen, but you still care for each other. Please be kind to yourself during this difficult time. It may be a good idea for you to see your GP regarding your lack of appetite, loss of weight and how you are feeling emotionally. Try to eat little and often if you are unable to eat full meals. It is good that you are trying to keep yourself strong. If you are experiencing dark thoughts , please call --

The Samaritans Freephone 116 123 24 hour helpline 7 days a week. They provide a listening ear. Please stay on the forum where you will receive replies from other members offering their support. Take care and best wishes.

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Thank you for your advise, i'm just taking each day as it comes, Its really tough but i know i will be ok. Its more the feeling of being lost, as 12 years of having someone there and then one day gone is scary. My support network is very good, but i am on of those people who deal with things myself and can shut people out, i dont mean to i have always been the same. I feel vulnerable and thought of ever being with someone else makes me feel sick and vise versa.

Thank you for your words.


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