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Hate being at work and hate being at home. In many ways i'm very lucky. I have three beautiful kids, a roof over my head, a job, and a Mrs and yet i'm miserable. Ive given up on my own hobbies and interests as ive no time. I see everybody else going out doing fun and exciting things while i'm stuck at home looking after my kids. Not sure how long i can pretend to be happy.

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Welcome to the world of being a family man :) X I know it's tough at times juggling home and work but as you say you have a home, a wife and three beautiful kids. It iwlll all be worth it in the end. You're probably just exhausted but I guess you can expect to be like that for a while. If you really feel it's sinking into depression then do try a trip to your GP who will be able to advise. Gemmalouise XXX


Hi Scottlayton35 and welcome to the forum. I needed to remove one word from your post as it may have caused offence to other members [in accordance with HU policy]. Stilltrying has given some good advice by suggesting that you see your GP if you feel you are becoming depressed. He/she will be able to advise and support you. Could you talk to your family and see if they could help with the child care for a few hours so you can take part in a hobby or interest? Perhaps you could find something that you and the children could all do together? Like swimming, perhaps? Do let us know how you are and stay on this caring forum to receive support from other members. Thank you and best wishes.


If we were able to swap problems like buttons, then wouldn't all our lives be more bearable. Right now you hate being at work. (Right now I find myself unemployed for the first time in my life and hating every second of it!!). You hate being at home (with the kids). I hate being at home because I would rather be at work. My son is 19 years old now and what I wouldn't give to turn back the clock and have him a "wee boy" again and enjoy spending even MORE time with him. You say you are lucky in a lot of ways. I think too that you are lucky. Maybe counting your blessings and focusing on the good things you do have and finding ways of being grateful an appreciating what you have may help. (I'm sorry, I'm not meaning to come across as preachy but maybe if you read some of the problems that other people have on here, (and that's not me saying that your problem isn't relevant to you), you will find that you ARE indeed really lucky. A lot of people would love to have what you think you haven't got??).

Good luck to you and take care!! XXX


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