Not Really A Big Deal...Or Is It????

[mnhreams45]

I've been married for 19 years and he is a very kind and loving person. However, our marriage is very hard work due to us both having affairs in the past. This sounds weird since I opened with my husband is very loving, but we our supposed to be very honest with one another and he has started texting a woman from work again. He says it is nothing and he was just checking on her welfare, but that how it always starts with him. I told him when he does this, he is opening the door and should not be texting a woman he doesn't know ...and how would he feel if I did this with a man from my work?

Basically, I don't think the pattern of behavior is going to change and I know some will think this is trivial...but there is too much history and I also feel guilty because I suffer from depression and he has put up with me for so long...or has he??? Probably the reason he reaches out to other women??? I'm just venting but really I feel very numb and not sure if I even care anymore....

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talk face to face. Ask him the questions you want to know. The real ones.

Truth comes if you’re being honest first.

[sweetiepye]

He has not only opened the door, he's half way through it. Another woman's welfare is none of his business and he knows this as well as you do. Don't take on his guilt and do not let your depression be an excuse . If you want to stay with him that is your business and I certainly wouldn't judge you, but be honest with yourself about what is really going on. Fear and repressed anger lead to depression in my opinion . I have been through this . I stayed. If it were to happen again I wouldn't. Be kind to yourself. Pam