Hello..

[0riginal]

Hello, I recently joined. I have ADD, depression, social anxiety, and PTSD. There isn't much to say besides I need someone who knows about relationships to help me. Thank you..

[Sarah1111111]

What sort of relationships/advice are you after? All relationships are more tricky when you have mental health difficulties but with the right support can still be ok. There are support groups/advice for those who are in a relationship with someone who has mental health difficulties if that is what you are after.

Hope you are doing ok at the moment.

[0riginal in reply to Sarah1111111]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and we want to stay friends but I don't know if I can because I get very emotionally attached to people.

[Sarah1111111 in reply to 0riginal]

Only you know the answer and it sounds like you think it would be easiest not to. Perhaps you could try to keep in touch and see how it goes. I wonder if having a break of a month with no contact at first would help you detach yourself a little from him? I think whatever you decide to try it would be best to sit down and have an honest conversation together about how you want to handle it and why it might be hard. Perhaps ask him to tell you nicely if he is finding that you are clinging too much to him so that you can change your behaviour rather than end up losing the relationship with him? Depends if you would be able to take that in the right way!!! Good luck it's the hardest thing to work out after the ending of a relationship so hope it goes well

[0riginal in reply to Sarah1111111]

This is some of the best advice I've been given. Thank you

[Sarah1111111 in reply to 0riginal]

Ah thank you I hope it helps x

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi recently joined what type of relationship are we talking about and welcome to the community by the way.

[0riginal in reply to MAS_Nurse]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and we want to stay friends but I don't know if I can because I get very emotionally attached to people.

[DMM218]

Hello - great name choice. Relationships tricky at best of time never mind if mental ill health an issue. What sort of problem you needing help with? If u don't want public chat you can message privately. Take care

[Mikealga]

Me too my friend.i just got in a relationship after 15 years alone,I am 38.at first 8 months ago it was really difficult but having someone around you who you can talk to and trust has become a milestone for me.

It's not going to be easy,I have fallen in love,but know it won't last I'm too complicated.

Follow the path which makes you happy and challenges you.good luck and please keep me posted.

I'm on this site because of the girl I met,she reccomended I see a therapist I said no.this is my compromise and I'm glad it happened,without her I wouldn't be trying to help you.

Live and love the now

[Tiggerakafidgity]

Hi there.

I have adult ADHD,paranoid personality disorder,anxiety disorder,depression and also PTSD.

So first of I would like to say I totally understand your mental health.

Yes relationships can be ever so hard when your partner does not understand or believe your mental illness.this is because you can't see it like a broken leg.some times I feel as though I almost have to convince some one I've ADHD and of course most ppl are told it's a myth.

If only they could be in our minds,they would soon run for the hills.alas we can't and have to find alternative strategies.

I can tell you loads about being in a relationship.

I'm a guy who is almost 47 and I'm happily married.

That's taken a lot of hard work on my self and also learning not to be lazy and take for granted what we have in our relationship.

Does ur partner under ADHD to start of with.

I guess if you have social anxiety you probably don't go out right ?

I've had to teach my wife the how and why and does and Do nots of ADHD and we have been togethor 6 years married 3 years but she still needs a break from me .

Do you ever get away with ur friends for the weekend ?

It may be your partner can't cope with not what u are as that's rude but perhaps who you are.

A lot of ppl let there illness define them.

Ah but with ADHD you have what I would call a gift from the gods.yesnits bloody hard but learn to harness its powers and whoosh what a rewarding experience.

Just fire away with any questions and I'll try my best to help.

Totally unbiased and none judgemental

Just a lovely guy who would like to help ppl and eventually become a mad councillor or physcotherapist known for his bizarre amzing methods of helping ppl.

Sorry just to say hi everyone.im new here and I saw this post and I signed up as I knew this person needed some help and guidance.

Sorry if it was a little overwhelming.

That's just me and ADHD he he

Bye

[0riginal in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

Hey thank you! Mine problem is not about being in a relationship but getting over one. My boyfriend and I just broke up and it's hard for me to let go especially with my ADD. I have impulse issues so just today I contacted him again after saying I wasn't going to. That mixed with everything else is making it that much more difficult because of my neediness and the way I cling on to people due to my lack of self-esteem from the depression.

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to 0riginal]

Hi

Sorry misunderstood that's ADHD for you hey.

Years ago when I was younger I always to cling on to girlfriends as I couldn't bare to be on my own.

One girlfriend I was on of on of, then we bought a flat together. After 9 months I asked to go as I couldn't stand my insecurities and low self asteam.

I just couldn't trust her and every day was making me feel physically sick,

I bought the flat lived on my own for 5 years built my self up and grew and studied meditation,I was 35 then.

After that period things happened and then I got diagnosed with ADHD. Well now life makes sense being on the right meds and now I love my own time.

Splitting up is never easy as you want to go back to what you know and your fearful of what you don't know

You have to love your self before you love any one else !!

[SocialButterflyCHADD]

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