Down and out of luck

[Toneage]

Hello everyone,

I've posted here twice, once about my depression and another time regarding getting help via counselling. This time I wanted to talk of my downfall in a way and just how my depression is getting the best of me.

I'm still waiting for my counselling's initial assessment which should be next week, but this week just gone has been really hard for me.

My Fiancé who I've been with for 3 and a half years broke it off with me the day before my birthday. We chatted like adults and spoke about it as I could tell she wasn't happy as she's become very distant.

We still love each other and she says she loves me still, but we're not working out in a relationship sense and that we're still best friends. I feel kind of awkward at times as I do love her still in a romantic way and we're still living together due to the reason of us getting to and from work.

I know in my heart she's gonna need to move out soon (next month or two) as it'll get more awkward than it is as she now gets dressed in her office and not in the bedroom and most we see one another is when we both go to bed (same bed) or when she comes in from work and I ask how her day is.

I've been trying to be proactive, going to work, doing things at home to improve myself for a better future, but I am unsure right now what to do as conversation is hard to make now and with living together afterwards I am kind of worried as I do care for her and knowing if she goes back home she may find it hard getting to work / may lose her job as the distance would be an extra 20 minutes (10 miles more) and she doesn't drive at the moment.

She is wanting to stay till she has her licence but the issue is, is that she has yet to get her provisional licence and that alone would be 2-3 weeks and a long period of taking lessons.

I'm just at a loss and don't want to force her to leave or seem like a bit of an arse.

[johncraig]

this is only my opinion about what i would do in similar circumstances.

If it was going to have a negative effect on my mental health i'd explain this to her and suggest a quick break if she 100% certain about moving out.

knowing how mental stress can affect the body as well as the mind i wouldn't take the risk and there is always the future to work things out if both parties want to.....john

[Toneage in reply to johncraig]

Thanks John,

I think her moving out is the ideal situation but as I do care for her, I worry for her getting to work currently if she did move out as the distance almost triples.

[johncraig in reply to Toneage]

Maybe it's time to think of yourself and your health first