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Losing hope for my family


I've just joined and I don't really know what I intend to get out of this site, nor do I really know what to say.

My brother attempted suicide recently by jumping off a building, he's still alive but has caused serious physical damage.

This isn't the first time he's attempted to kill himself, but it's the most extreme.

He was diagnosed with depression around 6 years ago but there were warning signs before then.

I'm very close to my brother and saw him just a few days before his recent attempt. We were laughing and having a good time, there didn't seem to be any signs of his intentions.

I feel alone now. I used to be able to support my family but now I struggle because everything has been turned on it's head and I don't know what to do.

I've always believed family is the most important thing, but what can you do when you're completely helpless and there aren't any answers? I feel guilty because I've lost my will to help.

Thanks to whoever takes the time to respond. I know it's not easy.

2 Replies

Welcome to the site, it's good for getting out what you need to say!

Firstly i just want to say I'm really sorry, it must have been a been a heck of a shock due to how unpredictable it had been, with you saying you had seen him recently. Depression isn't just hard for the sufferer, it's hard for the whole family. And it sounds like this has been the most serious attempt therefore making his condition come a lot more scarier for the rest of you.

Now i honestly don't know what to say, i have no advice on the subject as i myself have not had to experience a family member that was depressed, instead i AM that family member. But i just wanted to comment to let you know the community will be here for you and we're all a message away. Hold on in there as you will get more helpful comments to come! Sorry i can't be of more help, but i am here for you and i hope it gets better x


I am not sure you can stop people doing things like this. All you can do is offer your support and it is up to them if they want to take it. If they come to you to talk, be honest with them, and try not to judge them. It is impossible to really know how another person is feeling, or if what they have done is right or wrong. It is important you look after yourself though, so try to keep doing what you need to do to live your own life. It is not selfish, it is the most important thing.


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