Feeling bad again!

[Elsibells]

...sorry for the photo of what I wrote, but couldn't face writing it again so screenshot it before the app lost it!

[sweetiepye]

You know I remember setbacks , they are worse than the original illness because you are feeling so much better and it's such a relief . Then SLAM there you are back in the middle of hell and feeling like you have accomplished nothing. That isn't true of course. Setbacks are part of the whole thing. You may not have many, keep those thoughts positive and don't be fooled. This disease doesn't want to let go, it's having one last go at you. You be like a boss. Pam

Really, I just want to say kick the s##t out of it.

[Olderal]

Elsibells , please don't do that again you'll ruin all our eyes, better to retype. Yes it is a very debilitating illness but with any luck having now got two children the odds are that unless you decide to have another child the depression won't repeat once this one has passed, which it will. Even if you have another child it may not repeat altho you'd be better taking medical advice on this than mine.

Depression after birth is quite common but because of the welfare of the child I suspect that more resources are rightly allocated to it and hopefully your depression will soon pass and you'll be able to fully enjoy your new family. Just hang in there , and show as much courage and resolve as possible which are always so important with any form of depression. From what little I've read as a mere male it is a serious form of depression but usually it passes although I'll admit I don't know how long this typically takes.

You should be a least a little cheered to realise you almost certainly don't have one of the recurring types of depression which continue for years on and off which so many of us have.

Until it passes is there anyone close, preferably family who could spend short periods staying with you,say during the week when your husband is at work ?. Company is nearly always good for any depression.

Olderal

[Elsibells in reply to Olderal]

Thank you

[JAH4259]

Hello Elsibells

I'm sorry to here that you are having such a rough time of it at the moment. Although I have suffered with depression since my teens, it was extremely bad after each of the births of my 3 children so I know a little of what you are going through. I'm also going through a crisis point myself right now and have just come back from seeing a psychiatric Dr who now changed my meds. How is your GP support? Although not the be all and end all meds can help a lots to calm your mood so you can focus on getting yourself better. I have also just found out that there is so much in my local area to help us that I never even knew about e.g. I now go to my local hospice and have complimentary therapy - massage, reflexology and they also offer a Family Support Team with counselling as well as different workshops, art therapy, Thai Chi classes, relaxation and meditation etc. Before this (I was too ill to leave the house) the Community Team would visit me at home and offer the same and I'd see a psych Nurse as well. So please push for all the help you can get and don't take no for an answer, we pay our NI for a reason and we are entitled to this help when we need it. Wishing you all the luck in the world darling. And big up to your husband for supporting you like he has been too.

Jennie xxx

[Elsibells in reply to JAH4259]

Thank you Jennie. Whilst this is the longest and most significant period of depression, I too have had it on and off since my teens and possible before that. I really appreciate your advice - and all of the advice I have received. I will look at more local stuff to do. I did see my GP yesterday and am just waiting to go in and see my counsellor now. Lots of love and thanks again xx

[Sweepea]

It's great that you are having counselling, hope it goes well. Let us know how you get on.x