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just when everything was going well got a phone call at work to say dad was dead, went to see the ol boy don't know how to react I know how I feel but cant show it how, why , where , when see you soon dad love you to bits

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WhiteAlice

Oh, Bert! I'm so sorry! When it's sudden, like that, it doesn't always hit you right away. Oh, my. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

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spykey

Hi Bert

Sorry to hear the news about your Dad! Look after yourself!

Sending You Sincere Condolences!

I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers!

Warm Wishes & a Hug 🤗 Take Care spykey

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Bert-75

av been through lots in my life I have to make him proud in my/his lifetime never to give up no surrender hope I can keep the cause and grab life by the nuts and thanx everybody for there support

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Colin_123

Hello Bert-75

Sorry for your lost, I can honestly say i know where you are right now,

Lost my Dad a few months ago and another family member past away 2 weeks ago

I am attending his funeral tomorrow, Lost can be a very difficult for people and we all have different ways of dealing with it. You will be in my thoughts tomorrow

Take care Colin_123

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Photogeek

Hi Bert I don't think I have spoken to you here before. But just want to say that I'm so sorry about your Dad. It's very hard, grief takes time and the best advice I can give you is to mind yourself and treat yourself extra well at this time.

Hannah

Oh dear Bert I am so sorry. I bet it hasn't really hit you yet as it's so sudden. I lost my dad over 8 years ago now so understand how you must be feeling.

I lost mine unexpectedly too and it was surreal like I was in a dream. I seemed to look at the world in a different way. I found what helped me was talking to relatives and most of all carry on with routine. This makes you feel more normal and less surreal. After that you can start to grieve.

Don't forget grief is a process we all have to go through and we all do it in our own way. However you feel is right for you so don't listen to others. Do and feel what you need to mourn. Thinking of you Hugs x

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Goldfish_

Reflect on the good times and all your years together. It would be good for him to go when well and not suffering.

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chloe40

Hello Bert-75

I'm so very sorry to hear this sad news Bert. Your feelings will be all over the place right now, we are right here with you, anytime day or night. Take care.

Chloe

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Elsibells

I'm so sorry xx

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Delzek

Bert my Mum died last year March then Dad died in November, I did not show any feelings apart from Anger at the hospital (gave her the wrong drugs) but on the day of the funeral I had a breakdown I honestly could not stop sobbing tried so hard not to but I couldnt stop !At Dads funeral I think I was a bit overwhelmed meeting family I had never met I must have appeared a bit cold as I did not show sadness,yet when I arrived home 9.5 hours later I wept (it was a cold foggy journey home from Derbyshire to Brighton I didn't go to the wake! I normally panic in crowds so didn't go ,Yet stayed through the Funeral ! Selfishly I was proud that i managed that) You may have so many emotions going on just now that is normal.. I honestly believe that you should allow your emotions to flow out when they are ready perhaps like me they will come when you least expect them to? Either way let them out dont bottle them up that would be bad ! My heart goes out to you mI dont know how you feel but know how I felt inside ! May your Father rest in peace and your good memories keep your bad ones away for now! All the best Derek

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