I need to let off some steam.

[HermitCrab]

My mental health has been deteriorating at such a rapid rate over the past few weeks to the point where I no longer recognise myself anymore. My anxiety is at an all-time high, I am severely depressed and I have completely withdrawn from engaging in any form of social interaction.

I haven't ate properly for at least three or four days due to feeling nauseous and my stomach being in knots and I haven't been looking after myself either which isn't like me. I have also been very tearful over the past few days but I cannot seem to let any of it out and it feels like something is putting a fair amount of pressure on my head which I can only assume is due to how emotional and worked up I am at the moment.

All I want to do is curl up in a tight ball and sleep my days away!

[jennyjolly]

What's been happening to make you feel like this HermitCrab?

Has it been gradual/past history?

Or a split/bereavement/trauma etc?

Whichever you can get through this and out the other side

Hope you find the support/info you need on this site

Wishing you a much happier and more peaceful 2017

[HermitCrab in reply to jennyjolly]

It is down to a combination of things. It started off with a bad experience with a former friend around about late November/early December time of last year, more family issues, then a recent death of a beloved pet and now a loss of another friend today. Happy New Year and all the best for 2017!

[jennyjolly in reply to HermitCrab]

Such a lot to deal with in a brief time span

Losing a pet is so painful, they are like our children

And your friend also

No wonder you feel crazy, anyone would

Do hope you get all the help you need

Very best wishes

[jennyjolly]

Ps Are you seeing your dr/someone who could offer professional advice and help?

[HermitCrab in reply to jennyjolly]

Not at the moment. I am planning to go back early this week if possible to see if there is anything else they can do for me.

[Hidden]

Christmas can be a bad time of the year, you are not alone in your fears and insecurities. I do not know what your problem stems from all I can really say is live for the moment let your concern for anything more than that, let it go as long as you learn how to control your fears and concerns.

Talk to your GP and hopefully you will be given treatment so you can begin to learn the options that will help you control your Anxiety

Keep a hold

BOB

[HermitCrab in reply to Hidden]

Thanks! Much appreciated. I am planning to go back to my doctors early this week if possible because what was meant to help isn't working.

[Hidden]

Good Luck, you know where we are

BOB

[Rick1on1]

Hi Hermit,

It's horrible being in this tail-spin but only you can take steps to get out of it. It's more than just going to see a doctor who is going to give you meds.

The meds help of course but you need to develop an action plan where each day you do a little more of the activities that will you help you to cope with the depression. Here are some that can help:

- Write about your anxieties in a journal. Use as many words as possible to describe what you feel and what you think is the cause. Pretty soon you should be seeing patterns with how you can change your thought process into something more positive.

- Exercise

- Keep hydrated

- Eat fresh food and protein based food. Stay away from carbs as they turn into fat much quicker. You wont have to worry about losing weight later.

- Volunteer - this will help you to gain a sense of achievement which is invaluable for rebuilding self-esteem.

Hope this helps?

Rick1on1

[jennyjolly in reply to Rick1on1]

Great advice apart from the carbs

Best for someone to read up about the best eating plan for their weight/medical condition/see qualified nutritionist

For some to leave out carbs would be harmful

For others too much same

[Rick1on1 in reply to jennyjolly]

Thanks for highlighting my error in listing carbs as a bad food group. Should have said sugars

[jennyjolly in reply to Rick1on1]

nhs.uk/Livewell/loseweight/...

[Smartbob1]

Thinking about you. xxxxx

[Blueshirt]

Good luck

[darkshadow]

Hello, HermitCrab. I know exactly what you are going through. I've had all your symptoms. It is pure Hell.You are a mirror image of me. Some people seem to be able to cope with the traumas of life whereas others go to pieces. I respect all advice given here but some things you will not be able to do right now--such as overcome your fears or take even small steps to recovery. All the things you need to do are the very things you can't do. One thing I found helpful was to write it all down eg in your computer or just in a small notebook. This is an alternate means of getting your feelings out--which is what you need to do.You can be totally honest without worrying about the approval of others. It can be hard to begin this and it is just the first step but should be doable whereas other things can be too much for you at the moment.Please try to keep a daily account of what you feel. Also--you need to see your doctor as some medication may be necessary before you will be able to progress to the next stage. There is no cure for bereavement except to believe in the idea that we shall meet again sometime, somewhere-even with our beloved pets. Forget religion. Think Science and such things as other dimensions. There lies hope and that is what we all need. I don't know where you are in the world but I feel close to you because of the identical nature of our troubles. Peace of mind is the most precious thing in the world. It may be hard and a long journey but this site is so helpful because people here know what it's all about and truly care about you. You will conquer your fears. Just remember easy steps do it eventually. Myra.x.

[Hidden]

You know what the really positive thing is out of all this, that you are recognising that this isn't normal for you and you have identified it early. Definitely go to your GPs and see if they can help. There is absolutely no shame in taking meds just to lift your mood a bit and make you see things a bit more clearly. It's easy to bury your head in the sand when you feel like this and I did for years. Anxiety and depression and just basically losing interest in everything is all part and parcel of depression. Really sorry for your loss and give yourself time to grieve properly but do see your doctor. My husband takes anti depressants and has done for years. Nobody would have a clue by looking at him, interacting with him and he is really sociable but he wasn't always like that he almost had a full on breakdown and does not cope with stress well at all when he isn't medicated. Take it easy.