My mom is a psychotic alcoholic and about 2 years ago she got a new boyfriend and he moved in. He seemed okay at first but as we went down the line he started to be verbally abusive ( calling names when he was upset, very aggressive manor.) Then he started to enable my mom and she became a psychotic alcoholic... Now when something small happens like a simple misunderstanding she freaks out and starts screaming and will say hurtful things like she doesnt want me at her house anymore. Then it got worse when i got a serious relationship with a girl that im in love with, my mom constantly blames her and her family for our problems and it is not fair to her, she makes it so hard to see her because of it. My mom is super manipulative of me and her boyfriend is terribly toxic, and because of them it is creating problems with in my own relationship. I dont know what to do because my mom will freak about anything and everything, she puts the blame on me and my only escape is either going to work and hanging out with my girlfriend and now that is hard to do as well. Because of this ive been severely depressed and sometimes even suicidal, she gets to me still no matter how many times ive tried to not let it get to me. Please i need some help before i lose my girlfriend and i lose myself...
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Hi, sounds like anyone would be the same in your situation. Are you old enough to move out and get a place of your own? Even if it's a small one bedroom place?
im stuck there for another year im only now going to be a senior this year. Today i have to go home after conflict that we had on saturday, she and her boyfriend constantly verbally and mentally attack me rather than calmly talking about it, im kind of stuck in this spot.
Just hang on in there. You are doing the right thing by going out as much as possible to avoid them. Mental abuse is horrid and it makes you feel down and has a knock on effect to everything in your life. You are bound to be stressed out. Your mum sounds quite narcassistic. They usually hate their kids partners. It is more about another female seen as a challenge then anything else. Try if you can to put up an emotional wall so they can't get in. Sounds as if you are walking on egg shells and it is no way to live. As soon as you are able to, get a place of your own.
That was meant to say as soon as you can get a place of your own, do it.
I will thank you
Hi I'm just wondering what age you are? As your Mom has a duty of care to you at least till your eighteen, it might be worth talking to a school Counsellor or your local GP as if a Social Worker had a firm talk to your Mom she might change her attitude. Do you have any siblings? Or been an Aunt or Uncle or Grandpatents that could help you
It's horrible to think your Mom us putting this man before her own Son, but alcoholics often form abusive dysfunctional relationships,
But my concern us for you not your Mom, these dysfunctional home situations thrive on secrecy so you need to start telling your relations what's going on, someone might get through to her It's no wonder your upset living n that awful atmosphere.
Hannah
im 17 so i currently can not live somewhere else without my parents consent
Hello Sky
I was brought up in a toxic household and all I can suggest is that you look for somewhere else too live as it seems the Boyfriend has his own agenda and your mother has now been subjected to many problems and the boyfriend has become in control of your Mother and household.
You say you have another year before you can leave home, talk to your GP and ask for Social Services if you can be moved to safety while you wait to complete your education as the environment is toxic and you are frightened because of the harassment you are been subjected to. Are you safe ??
Of course I do not know how old you are and also I do not know the full dynamic of your household and if you feel there may be a way that your Mother can eventually find a way to control the way your family home has been disrupted. their may be a silver lining of sorts there.
If you feel in any form of danger you will need to talk to your GP and Social Services if you feel the relationship with your Mothers boyfriend is putting your Mother or you are at risk you will need to discuss her mental health with your GP if possible.
The real problem here is your Mother is an adult so She has her own needs and can make those decisions. The house also belongs to her so you are somewhat stuck with what you can do
For you talk to your GP and explain your fears and worries, the whole thing seems to be causing problems with your health. Approach on that tack first
BOB
thank you
Are you in the UK? If so look at this which I took from a legal site
At age 16
You can leave home without your parents' or carers' consent (you don't need their permission). If you become homeless and you're 16 or 17 years old, you may be entitled to help with money, housing, education, training and support from social services
Im struggling with my life, someone please help me
Anti psychotic drug 
Being good or a fool?
My Girlfriend is hurting so bad
Mom wants to give us. Sis will have orphange for her birthday or a step family with the baby that ruined my life 
