“A thing which has not been understood inevitably reappears, like an unlaid ghost, it cannot rest until the mystery has been resolved and the spell broken.” Sigmund Freud
....in other words, understanding where our behaviours and reactions may be originating from diffuses them and paves the road to inner peace.
That is very true, even though I have behaviors and reactions that I don't want to know we're they came from. I want keep them locked up in my brain were it will keep me safe.
Hi all! Thank you for letting me in your community. I am from the states. I love listening to all...no matter who you are, from...OH, diversity! Love it!
Thank you again!
Hello and welcome 3dUSA. I agree, to be able to explore behaviours and reactions we have to be ready for it, prepared for the Pandora box content. Each one of us have our own limitations and levels of tolerance which we should follow and respect. Issues can be addressed and processed only when we're ready. I value your comment. Best wishes.
Hi I mainly agree but in my case I have several unsolved issues which I know where they came from but there is no solution except to accept them which makes me very sad. x
You are not alone, Bev, I believe that almost everyone has unresolved issues (unless they are monks practising deep meditation). I also find that coming to accept my issues is a settling experience. It's lovely to talk about any concerns because a problem shared is a problem halved and there are many nice individuals out there willing to lend an ear as in this forum. Even roses have thorns. And we all have something special about us. By the end of the day, our experiences past or present are what make us who we are. A good chunk of these experiences may have been the result of others' misgivings and misbehaviours so acknowledging it was no fault of ours I believe is the first major step. It then takes time to process any emotions involved such as anger, sadness etc which may take years and this is perfectly legitimate; when we feel ready we stop thinking about them on a regular basis and lay them to rest (for most of the time at least). I think issues will always be there for everyone and it's a question of finding a way to turn the negative into something constructive and positive, a bit like turning rubbish into fuel; to feel empowered and in control which is not always easy but once achieved it is emancipating. It takes bravery to address any issues and process them, a lot of people choose to throw themselves into something (being it work, hobby, partying etc) so they don't have too much time to dive deep into their minds; however, certain events may suddenly trigger unexpected, overwhelming emotions, difficult to handle, not knowing where they came from since they were never allowed to be investigated. It takes a special kind of person, a brave, deep thinker to face the mirror and accept what is there. A lot of people won't, afraid of what they may see, not ready to deal with it. Have a lovely week.
Awwwh, thank you so much 3dUSA. Have a lovely day!
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