I feel like this

[iloveyou454]

can anyone take me out of this zone

[Olderal]

Dear Il, sadness is a normal human emotion and if there is some event making you sad that's OK and it will pass.

If its more than that,there are well known symptoms of depression , waking early,loss of appetite.loss of interest in things you normally enjoy,etc .Almost any website you google on depression will list the symptoms . You probably won't have them all.

You have n't given us much to go on but if it is depression unless you are an incredibly strong person you'll need medical help to overcome this, as most of us do and you need to see your GP. You need a listening and sympathetic GP. He/she might provide medication to help but almost as important as the medication are taking exercise, regular sleep habits, a healthy diet, and most of all your own strength and courage.

Sharing the burden with a close family friend or another friend, or via this site will also help a lot.

You also,if diagnosed with depression need to decide whether to be open about this or keep it to a restricted circle whose discretion you trust. Because there is still a bit of a stigma about depression which is a form of mental illness I would recommend keeping it discreet. This is not easy and will put some extra strain on you, but does have advantages if you can do it. If you fail you're no worse off than you would have been anyway.

I do hope its just a passing sadness as depression complicates life , but not unbearably. It is common, and many of us have it as a persistent but beatable enemy. Most people have something that complicates life although not that many are judged tough enough to take on depression. It's not first prize in the lottery of life.

Olderal

[Hidden in reply to Olderal]

Hi I don't think being an incredibly strong person is anything to do with depression. That just means that the rest of us are too weak! I don't consider myself weak or anyone else on here. x

[Olderal in reply to Hidden]

That includes me. However there are people who have coped with very serious depression without help, not many. That does n't mean the rest of us are too weak. Just that we're not as strong as those people of whom there are n't many. I know the modern theory is that everyone is the same but I'm old fashioned .I believe some people are smarter ,stronger, faster, older, and what ever than others. Thats why I've never played football for my country or beaten Usain Bolt in a sprint.

[Hidden in reply to Olderal]

We will have to agree to differ on that Olderal. x

[Olderal in reply to Hidden]

Think I just lost a post. It does n't mean we're too weak ,just a very few are stronger. I'm old fashioned .I believe some are smarter , faster, wiser, older, balder , stronger and whatever than others.

Thats why I've never played football for my country or beaten Usain Bolt in a sprint.

[iloveyou454 in reply to Olderal]

it never passes for me whenever i get happy the bad thoughts come back in my head and i cant stand it

[Olderal]

Another thought , if thats your heart in the picture put it back. Holding it like that would make anyone unhappy and sad.😄

Olderal

[iloveyou454 in reply to Olderal]

it seems like if i did that than nothing will change everyone's life would be the same but they dont have my life to pretend that they like or wants to be my friend

[patliputra]

Yes,heart break can disturb deeply. But life doesn't end there. Please don't live in past and move on. Some one is waiting just for you,so, smile and look around.

Good luck.

[anju2015 in reply to patliputra]

very true

[iloveyou454 in reply to patliputra]

i cant this feeling haunts me everyday

[Hidden]

Hi iloveyou454, Really sorry to hear that this is how you are feeling at the moment. I felt at the end of my tether and pretty much like your image to start with. I fought my doctor regarding the depression diagnosis to start with, but I eventually agreed to try the medication and other therapies he was suggesting. Just over 2 years later I am almost back to my normal self. I agree with Olderal's pot about getting help and support. I am not going to go into my own experience here, but the more help you can get and the more support you can get from your friends and family the better you will feel. If you have stopped doing activities or sports cause of how you feel I'd encourage you to start them again. Even if you just start by popping in and speaking to people.

As well as getting professional help if that is what you decide to do I'd also suggest you find an image that reflects how you want to be and put it somewhere where you can see it every day. Find a mantra that you can use every day that helps. You can feel better, you can take little steps each day to help, but don't be afraid to seek help from your doctor.

I hope things work out for you. It will take time and every day will be a new challenge, but you can do it. You can get out of that zone.

Take care.

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