Rock bottom

[Rachms11]

Can anyone give me some advice? I've hit rock bottom after ending my first serious relationship with who I was also engaged. I know I ended it cuz I felt different once we moved in together. Literally the first night. But I feel suicidal..... I'm 23. Please help me

[Rachms11]

We lived together for 2 months though and I was miserable and anxious the whole time

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Hi Rachms I am sorry for how you are feeling. Ending a serious relationship is always very distressing but, I know it's corny, but time really is a great healer.

I have looked back at your other posts and you did get some advice and support then. Have you taken any of it? Does it help?

If you are still feeling suicidal all you can do is go back to your doctors and tell them. It sounds like you need treatment. x

[Sceptic23]

I am familiar with how you're feeling. I was engaged two years ago and broke it off. Before and after, I could hardly sleep and night and sit still. Guilt was overwhelming, but I realised I couldn't make myself love them and that it might have ruined our lives even more down the line and possibly our children's lives too.

I don't know your exact reasons for ending it but hang in there. If it was meant to happen it would have. And if you need to chat let me know.

[Olderal]

Rachms, I certainly feel sorry for the pain you are feeling over your relationship ending but something like 70% (at a guess ) of people have experienced a deep relationship breaking up by the age of 23. It hurts and it can hurt very much but from what you say you should n't be feeling suicidal. You should be celebrating that a relationship that does n't sound right for you has ended.

Sure it hurts ,but would you have really preferred to continue in a relationship that did n't feel right. Instead of wasting time you can now look for a relationship that does feel right, but beware of "on the rebounds". You certainly should n't be feeling suicidal over it, and if you really, really feel this is a risk talk to the Samaritans. Then see your GP as you should certainly not be feeling depressed over a "wrong" relationship ending.

At 23 you have many years in which to find the right partner. The days have long gone since people were considered on the shelf at even 30.

If you don't find the pain is much less in a few weeks we will be here for you, but give time a chance.

[Photogeek]

Hi Rachs yes I remember you and your fear of leaving your parents. What your feeling is out of proportion to what has happened . Your relationship seems to have ended because you could not bear np to leave your parents , this is unusual, as this tells me that you are too bondeded to your parents for your age. You need to address the reasons

Why you are so afraid of striking out on your own and being independent? , the relationship ending is just a symptom of the real problem, and until you address this

Problem you will not be happy. You cannot stay with parents forever and I wonder why

You are so dependant on them. Please get help for this and therapy may help, and then you will be able to separate from your family and be a grown up. Now you seem

To be like a scared child and I dont think it's anything to do with the relationship ending,, it's about you not being able to stand on your own feet.

So this needs to be looked at and unravelled, the relationship is just a big neon sign

That something is not normal for this age of 23. You should be well capable of separation from your family , why are you so glued to them? What do your parents think? Please tease all this out or you will never grow up, and you will ruin

Any chance of a normal functioning relationship.

Hannah

[Rachms11]

Thanks everyone. I'm ok now. Was having a hard day and had a big fight with my mum. Photogeek - I am an anxious person. Always have been and always will be.

I really thought it was about leaving my home and parents but it wasn't..... I just hoped it was that and not how I felt about him. I am trying to get out on my own. But I can't afford too ATM