Relationship

[Teamacfarlane]

Loads of people have proper reasons for their depression but mine was caused by a relationship.

I'm 16 and suicidal but my mum has no clue :/ I'm not sure what to do anymore...

[Suzie40]

There's no such thing as a proper reason to be depressed. Anyone can feel depressed. You don't need to complete a tick sheet to qualify. I'm sorry that you're feeling this way, but I would urge you to try and tell someone close to you. If not your Mum, then perhaps a friend, or a teacher maybe? If you'd like to tell us a bit more here, we might be able to help x

[hamble99b]

hi , I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.

is it possible to talk to your Mum or a trusted adult? you need to talk to someone.

I'm adding a list of possible helplines. would you consider calling at least one?

please come back on and let us know how you are.

sincerely,

hamble.

The Samaritans

Tel: [phone]

samaritans.org

Whatever you're going through, we're here to help 24 hours a day. We won't judge you and we won't share what you tell us with anyone else. Get in touch by telephone, email, letter and face to face in the UK andIreland. Visit befrienders.org if you live outside the UK or Ireland.

SANEline

0845 767 8000

sane.org.uk

SANEline is a national out-of-hours telephone helpline offering emotional support and information for people affected by mental health problems.

Moodjuice

moodjuice.scot.nhs.ukThe site is designed to offer information, advice to those experiencing troublesome thoughts, feelings and actions. From the site you are able to print off various self-help guides covering conditions such as depression, anxiety, stress, panic and sleep problems.

Mind

Mind Infoline: 0845 766 0163

mind.org.ukThe Mind InfoLine offers thousands of callers confidential help on a range of mental health issues. Mind helps people take control of their mental health. We do this by providing high-quality information and advice, and campaigning to promote and protect good mental health for everyone. They also provide a special legal service to the public, lawyers and mental health workers.

[Teamacfarlane in reply to hamble99b]

Thank you so much :):)

[Photogeek]

Hi there Teacmacfarlane.

I'm very sorry to hear that your feeling like this, it's very hard to deal with these

Feelings at this age.

It's always hard if a relationship ends, and I'm presuming this is the reason. I have been

Through break ups in my time and it can feel like the end of the world.

Please please talk to someone , your Mum or an Aunt or Someone you trust.

You were very brave to come here, so you have taken a positive step.

Hamble has given you lots of contacts . Maybe try Phoning one of them . Please let us know your ok as I will be

Thinking of you. I hate to think of you trying to get through this on your own.

Just remember your not alone , we will all be here to help you out.

Healing hug to you

Hannah

[secondhandrose2]

You are being harsh towards yourself in thinking a relationship is not a proper reason for being depressed - you say you are 16, and suicidal but that your mum has no clue - that says to me that you don't have the kind of relationship with your mum where you can share with her how you are feeling and know she will understand you - and THAT is a proper reason for being depressed.

Can you say any more about how you are feeling and the things that make you feel so bad, then we can support you and perhaps help you to find ways to change things.

Sue xx

[Teamacfarlane in reply to secondhandrose2]

My dad is disabled and it's hard. My mum is sick too. She almost had a heart attack cause someone ate her pizza. It's really difficult at the moment x

[secondhandrose2 in reply to Teamacfarlane]

Aaah, both those must make things difficult for you, and must add to your depression too though I don't understand the bit about your mum almost having a heart attack because someone ate her pizza - do you mean her sickness is emotional or was there some other reason? Sorry if I have got it wrong, it's hard to understand without knowing more.

Feeling your mum will not understand you and that you are not close is sad, so do get referred so you have someone you can talk with, support online can be helpful but it cannot help the way seeing a professional counsellor or therapist might help.

Suexx

[WantToChange]

Hi. You are very young to have had your heart broken so deeply. I was 18. I know how hard it is. I agree with the above, phone Samaritans if you feel you need to get it all out. Unfortunately they charge quite high for the calls but that's how they make their money. I spoke to them a few times when my last relationship en

ended and I couldn't make sense of anything. I felt numb and any thought of him made me cry, I could only sleep when I was exhausted.

Or alternatively, you can speak to us. Don't be afraid to go into detail about how you feel. I know you said you are suicidal, but what is it about this boy that has made you feel this way?

I will never forget my first love, nobody does. But I have learned a great deal from that relationship, a lot of hard lessons... And the pain was worth it.

O k

[WantToChange]

Hi,

16 is a young age to feel so heart broken for the first time, I was 18 and I still remember how much it hurt. But overall I'm glad I went through that because no break up has been quite as bad as the first one. The first cut is always the deepest...

I agree with phoning Samaritans. I phoned them a few times after my last relationship ended. I felt numb, lost a lot of weight and could only sleep if I was exhausted. It was helpful to get it all out, but they do charge by the minute. I found this site very helpful too. Don’t be afraid to tell us how you feel. I know you said you are suicidal but what is it exactly that is making you feel this way? Do you feel you can’t let him go? Or is there something else which is adding to the break up? Trust me, no one on this site will judge you. I have been completely honest since I first came here.

Do you feel you can maybe tell your mum how you feel?

[Teamacfarlane in reply to WantToChange]

She doesn't understand me. I wish we were closer... I'm trying to recover but I realise how hard it is :/

[elaineanne1]

Do get help there are plenty of places to go (as in one of the replies) and do tal to you GP who should b able to point you in the right direction.

Keep strong ad think positive

[SLSL]

Hey,

Please, write again. Tell us a bit more.

I know it sounds unbelievable but time does heal a broken heart. I had my first boyfriend from 14-16 and when it ended I thought the world was ending too. But it didn't.

You are very responsible as you seem not to want to burden your mum, and that's ok, but you must tell someone who is close. Teacher, GP. And keep writing here and get all your feelings off your chest. I joined only yesterday but it has kept me sane since last night and I am very grateful for this. But I also made the responsible decision to reach out for help close by. And indeed, as our friends suggested above, do pick up the phone and speak to one of the specialist helplines like the Samaritans as they will be able to confirm what type of support it is you need now.

You deserve the help you need.

[hamble99b]

I rang to check and the Samaritans call is the same as any local call, 5p a minute. they are a charity.

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Talk to your mum, or grandma, or talk to me, I have been around for a while, sometimes I make sense, I ran a kitchen with 20 odd chefs, I had to be a dad to them all. if I can help I will..