If you could go back 10 or 20 years w... - Mental Health Sup...
If you could go back 10 or 20 years what would you do differently?
you cant, and reliving the past things can bring on all kinds of negative feelings - and we all know where those lead ............
live for today, plan for tomorrow, be kind to all, and enjoy those you love and who love you
xx
That's a lovely answer x
i hope that sharing our thoughts could help someone who is in that 10- 20 years ago position and is looking for some ideas... 
i would have gone to my GP and sorted out or at least done something about my back pains back then
A.
Yes, thank you aye_may - I know we can't go back in time - of course we can't change the past. But, like you say, it might be helpful/insightful to younger people.
Have different parents but who I still loved and a few brothers and sister - but we can't and that's reality.
---- if i had been able to see into the future i would have certainly thought more about how much stress some major life decisions would put me under.... but no crystal ball --- sigh----- the best i can do is try to learn from my cock-ups . One thing i would wish for would have been better self-awareness it is something that i am still struggling to master... lack of it still gets me into messes
Stopped smoking. Then I might not have health problems now. x
I agree with Vicky - you shouldn't regret anything. It's my belief that our futures are mapped out for us, and bad things are sent to test us. You can't change what has happened in the past, so why make yourself think about it? But if you're insistent on an answer, I'd definitely marry a rich man if I had my time over!
Money is not everything!!
It was actually a joke!
A good friend of mine is a pharmacist and owns properties and investments and all sorts. Sometimes I look at his lifestyle and feel so jealous. But then he says he walks into my shabby little home, looks at my little children running around, and says he feels exactly the same. It's all relative.
Sorry Lucy, I didn't mean it like that
My sister married a multi-millionaire - is she happy - the jury is out there. One thing is for certain - she wouldn't have married him if he was the local plumber!
Completely agree with this Ziggy. The most important thing for me in life is peace of mind.
Ziggy in hindsight everything I have been through has shaped me as a person,
Like a stone on a beach, the tide of twenty years brought pain and happiness.
A death of a partner and my parents, and all the love they give they gave me.
We cannot go back but enjoy now , life is now.
Hannah
If I could go back I would stop worrying so much about the future, try to be less stressed about everything and live each day to the max. Look at the big picture and not get bogged down so much with the stuff going on in my head. I would definitely have had therapy at 18 rather than 43 for the first time.
We can't go back but if I could go back I would have liked to have realised that I am lovely and special person and there isn't that much wrong with me; just a lot of insecurity and all the circumstances I grew up in. I would have loved to have children but I would have had to be in a better state of mind than I was at that age ; having children in the mental state I was in could have damaged me further as I would have worried if they had any emotional or mental health problems that I had passed on something bad to them and that I was at fault.
I would not feel like that now as I feel better about myself.
I would love to be rich. I know money can't buy happiness but at least I could be miserable in comfort! 
x
Just wouldn't have got in the relationship that screwed by head up and lead me here. And would have a lot more belief in my abilities. Also made a firm decision about my career. Is all hindsight though
Hi I am so down I just don't want to be here all I have are negative feeling if I was not here it would be a better for me and ever one
dani i think your post got a bit lost stuck at the end of this one. The members on here are good listeners, when you are ready put up your own post or a question, i don't think you are being ignored, but if the forum is busy sometimes comments get a bit lost in the latest activity page.
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