You never know what someone is going through. Therefore, a little more kindness, patience, and #love is needed.
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I would add -
telling someone "but you look so well" or
"there's hundred's worse off than you" or
" so-&-so has pain but she still works"
we are all individual.
one person's illness, anxiety, depression, problems or pain does not diminish yours.
there can be no comparisons.
it's not a competition.
with love,
H 
I completely agree with this!
It still ceases to amaze me how many people say 'just cheer up' or 'what's wrong with you today? you were fine yesterday', 'has something happened?' - that one really gets me! You say 'nothing has HAPPENED, it's just me' but they can't understand it and say 'well just cheer up then' !!!! It's a never ending viscous circle.
And those who don't know what's really wrong, I say to them 'I just don't feel well' and they reply 'but you look fine'!!!
Everybody, and I mean everybody, should read the above. x
Completely agree with this!! I hate that "What happened?" and then the "Just cheer up then" thing; it makes you feel so small and stupid for "apparently" having no reason for feeling how you do; and also that it is not a good enough "excuse" for being low; just that you feel that way.
It does just make you feel so much worse. On a day that is obviously not one of the better days anyway, it's like kicking you whilst you're down (pun intended!! ) x
This is so true Hamble. Goes well with the theme of Viktor's post on similar topic.
Yes I've had people say exactly those things and it makes you even more down.
Luckily I had two great friends who were at my house everyday for nothing more than just a chat, usually an hour a day and you don't realise how much good it does you . Then the penny drops and you know you have help.
Just a shame everyone can't have such friends
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Today was a 'good day'... :)
