Hopeless ?

[FallenAngel]

Hi Friends

Today has been a terrible day so far , spent 2 hours with my daughter and dreaded comming home to an empty flat. I cannt stand living alone I am so sad and lonely and the apathy is terrible . I wake up everyday thinking oh no diff day same crap. Will I ever be happy again. Very fed up

sharon x

[Betsy13]

Dear Sharon,

I know coming home to an empty home is horrible, but there will be days when things are different. You're blessed with a daughter you can visit and I'm sure she treasures every moment she can spend with you (as a child that doesn't see her Dad very often I can be fairly certain of this). If she is your bright moment of the day, perhaps you could take up a hobby to do with her? For example, I've taken up knitting as I find it very therapeutic, perhaps you could knit something for her? I'm sure she'd appreciate the effort you put in and you may find you even enjoy it?

Regardless, hoping for that better day is something we can all do, you'll always have support and understanding here.

Betsy xx

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Hi Sharon

Oh I am sorry you have been having such a bad day. Presumably your daughter doesn't live with you and you had an access visit? That must be so very hard for you. I know what you mean about living alone - I have a husband who is hard of hearing and ill so I spend most of the time on my own and it IS so lonely! We are not meant to live alone.

I don't know whether you will ever be happy again but I guess the only way that will happen is if you can find a way to make it happen. You say every day's the same crap and I can understand that as I sometimes feel a bit like that, there's a lack of any meaningful routine. I presume you don't work or have a structure to your week - although maybe you do - but if not can you go back to college or do some kind of hobby that will give you a new lease of life and maybe have the potential to be a career? It always feels better to have a sense of direction or purpose in life and not having your daughter with you maybe means your life lacks purpose. You could do some voluntary work if that is your kind of thing - you might not feel up to it, but probably once you started if you enjoyed the work you would feel better for doing it, and it would get you out of the house and meeting people which usually improves my mood.

I don't know whether it's any help but one idea might be to take in a student as a short term lodger, term time only for one year. Do you have a spare room in your house? I'm wondering whether you have a Uni nearby and could take in a lodger as that would mean there was some company although you would have to provide an evening meal for them, but you would also bring in some money. I did it when my children were small.

The other thing I want to find out about is how to find pen pals! I had some when I was a child and loved writing letters regularly to people, it isn't company but it's a bit like writing on the website only you don't have to be depressed, you can just write about whatever thoughts you have and share them with someone.

Sorry the ideas are not much help. I do feel for you, but there are no easy answers in life. There are lots of things it is possible to do but only you can search for things in the area where you live.

I hope you find some ways to help yourself feel better, there's a whole world out there for us all to enjoy and use to make our lives fuller and more meaningful - I'm feeling optimistic today but I can identify with times when I feel just as you are feeling.

Take care,

Suexx