When the 35th birthday came

[augusto7]

This is a great age. The flourishing of strength and life. But I entered my 35th birthday as a wreck. The body is slowly falling apart, at first it was heartburn, then kidney stones, then headaches. I got tired after 2 working hours and couldn't do anything else. I had no strength to play sports, I could only lie down. I visited every specialist I could, but nothing helped. And you know, a psychologist helped me find a way out. Advice that seemed banal and stupid to me like “we need to reconsider life priorities” turned out to be effective. I spent too much time allowing myself to be rented out to everyone around me - family members. employers, friends, parents and many other people.

As soon as I learned to say “no,” no one was offended, and my energy battery inside began to fill up again. I want to say with this story - pay attention to yourself. If your body starts to hurt, something is wrong. Men have a lot of responsibility. But as they say: “When you get money, pay yourself first, then everyone else.” Don't forget about yourself.

[Maaria099]

Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s so inspiring to see how you’ve turned things around by prioritizing yourself. Learning to say “no” is such an important skill, and it’s great that it helped you regain your energy and focus on your well-being. Your message about listening to our bodies and putting ourselves first is a powerful reminder. I hope your story encourages others to take that necessary step toward self-care. Here’s to more strength and balance as you embrace this new chapter!

[STEM_Dad]

The human mind is a powerful thing. It seems that the number 35 became a wakeup call age for you.

For some people, it would be 30, 40, 50.

For me, it was 45... it led to a shift in my mindset about my career progress and being able to provide better for my family. I became focused on both taking better care of myself for better mental health, and taking better care of my family. (For my ex-wife, turning 45 ultimately led to her filing for divorce... so now the family that I focus on is me and my kids.)

BTW- physiologically, there are two periods of rapid change, according to a study by Stanford Medicine: 44 and 60.

... prepare yourself