I've searched around online a lot but haven't yet found anybody describe a situation quite like mine.
I am a 30 year old and have had quite an active sex life, but there are times that sexual intercourse and oral sex is painful due to my foreskin not being able to fully retract over the head of my penis when I'm erect. There's no issues to do so when I am flaccid so I've been able to keep everything clean but as soon as I try to fully retract my foreskin when erect I end up losing my erection because it is too painful to maintain. I end up just having sex by not fully retracting my foreskin. It seems to work ok but it's not ideal.
The main reason why I think I have this issue is because I have either a very short or possibly better described as a non existent frenulum. The reason why I say it's not existent is because it's nowhere to be seen. I know what one looks like and I know how it is supposed to function but instead of having a frenulum I have foreskin directly attached to the glans right where the frenulum is supposed to be. It's like my foreskin has fused to the underside of the head of my penis. The area where it seems to be fused together is probably slightly more than 1cm across.
It's been like this ever since I was young. In fact I can remember an incident where I suffered a trauma as a boy and I think because of that trauma my foreskin adhered to the head of my penis and it has been that way ever since. At the time of the trauma I was embarrassed about it and so I never told anyone about it and just left it. This was probably not the right thing to do as it now appears that things healed incorrectly and now my foreskin is attached directly to the head.
I'm away from home for the next few months but have decided that I'm going to visit my doctor when I get back home so that he can make a proper diagnosis but in the meantime does anybody have any advice on what I can do to be able to possibly retract my foreskin fully when I'm erect without pain so I can enjoy having sex with it it fully retracted?
I have 1% hydrocortisone cream with me so would it help to apply that everyday to the area where the skin has fused and gently try stretching It to see if I can get the foreskin to pull away from the head? Although honestly when I look at it I don't know how this would work because from my point of view where my foreskin has fused to the head it looks like it's the same skin. I cannot differentiate between the skin that is on the head and the foreskin where it has fused. Hopefully you guys can see what I mean from the photo, which is taken from the underside of my penis where my frenulum is supposed to be. You can see the foreskin has fused to the head and when I try to retract fully in the flaccid state as pictured it pulls the head of my penis quite dramatically.
Right now I feel like I'll never be able to retract my foreskin fully when erect and so I'll have to have a circumcision. I really don't want one, hence the reason why I've not done anything about this for so long. I've just kind of accepted that I have this weird kind of mutated penis that doesn't do exactly what I want it to do. But I'm hoping that someone may have some advice that may help and enable me to retract my foreskin while erect so I can avoid a circumcision.
Any thoughts welcomed and appreciated.