Help?

[Merrkat]

I’m 15, and over the last probably 3 or 4 years I have had occasional episodes of depression. When it does come, its quite bad and I sometimes think I’d be better off not here at all. I haven’t really told many people and I just need someones advice on what to do.

Thanks.

[Daz81]

Talk to someone. Parent, doctor, friend. Don't suffer in silence mate.

Sometimes sharing a problem is enough to make it go away.

[Merrkat in reply to Daz81]

I’ve talked to a parent who has in turn talked to a doctor, the thing is neither of them really understand it. They both think that if I do minor things like exercise more or go for a walk in the park then I’ll get better.

[Daz81 in reply to Merrkat]

Do you socialise much?

[Merrkat in reply to Daz81]

Occasionally, I have a group of friends I like to go around with. However I get really nervous through my depressive episodes and very paranoid, so sometimes its hard for me to talk to people.

[Daz81 in reply to Merrkat]

Keeping busy, exercise and a good healthy diet can play a massive part in mental health.wellbeing.

[Merrkat in reply to Daz81]

Of course, but I just dont have the energy or the will to do any of those things. If it were up to me I’d just sleep all day.

[lovenothate]

Hi, I recognise the feeling of not having the motivation or the want or energy to get up and do something like go for a walk or socialise when feeling depressed. It’s more than just feeling a bit ‘down in the dumps’ or feeling a bit sad. You really need to see a Dr yourself. You can do that without having to tell a parent, although it would be good to tell them so you have their support. Some talking therapies can help, as can some medication, but a good doctor will know the best course of action. Good luck 👍🏻

[Merrkat in reply to lovenothate]

Thank you, that is a really helpful reply ❤️

[jimfromcalif]

I think it would be wise to speak with someone experience in your area of need. What you’ve said indicates a need for correction of a chemical imbalance. There are definitely answers. This is nothing about which to feel embarassed or ashamed.

[Merrkat in reply to jimfromcalif]

Yeah, I already have however I’ve mostly been suggested a path of self healing, which I dont have the energy or willpower to do.

[jimfromcalif in reply to Merrkat]

You’ve expressed some doubt about your reason to live, so that’s an indication that it would be wise to seek the support of someone who has successfully walked others on the path of healing. Serious depression is often a result of a chemical imbalance of the body. That’s something one needs help in administering. I urge you to press on in seeking that help.

[nickItaly]

Dear Merrkat

I know how you feel. I had some unpleasant periods of that kind when I was 14-15 years old (about 40 years ago!). Much more adolescents feeI like this than you think. However, I strongly advice you to ask for help to specialized doctors. You may have some hidden thought that you do not realize to have, and the specialists can help you in that sense. Once you have talked to that kind of doctors, you will feel better. Of course medication can be essential too. Don't lose time; nowadays, psychiatrists are much more open to dedicate their attention also to people like you, who have only some traits of discomfort. It is like prevention. Go now, and you will be a happier person when you grow up. Believe me!

Parents can be helpful or not, depending on their own propensity to give importance to your symptoms. So I think it is a good idea to go the the doctor alone, and discuss with him if and how to tell something/everything to your parents. Remember that as a son you have anyway the right to your privacy, even towards your parents.

Let me know

Nick

[tobius]

Hi

Have you got anything in your life that you really enjoy? Do more of it.

When you think low, your mood will be low and your behaviour will also be the same.

Find a memory from somewhere in your life that can instantly make you smile or laugh, concentrate on that thought.

This will make you think more positive, feel happier and your actions will be more positive.

[jaglad]

I agree with the advice that you should speak to someone, initially it does not have to be a Doctor, you could speak to a counsellor. They are usually found through leaflets in places like Doctors surgery or even in the library. Believe it or not the suggestion that you do little things may be of help. Once you find an interest, no matter what, that can lead to better things and a brighter future. You have taken steps to find your way, keep taking those steps.

Good luck

[hmanos]

Mate I have a friend in the same situation. When he was feeling depressed he was calling as to go out for a walk, talking, having a coffee, playing football and in general he was engaging in group activities. After a few months he overcome this situation. Also a good idea is to talk to someone in your family about this.