Sex after circumsicion

[jfox12]

I've got mine done about 2 months ago and sex has been awkward to put it mildly. I don't feel much down there, and its hard for me to maintain an erection, I don't feel when it has gone in (or it starts to soften once it goes it since I don't feel much), and when I feel something is uncomfortable, like it being squeezed. Has this happened to anyone?

[Jrtxboiy]

When I got mines done I lost a lot of feeling over half. So it takes time to get use to but I wish I would of never gotten it done.

[jfox12 in reply to Jrtxboiy]

Hey Jrtxboiy, thanks for letting me know. Approximately how long did it take for you to get some of the sensitivity back?

[Jrtxboiy in reply to jfox12]

sorry for the late response I don’t really use this but it took about a few months. Even when the feeling back you really lose a lot of the feeling. It’s nothing how having the foreskin is like.

[Juice689]

My sensitivity improved over time I’m afraid you need to be patient and I’m a lot older than you. Hang in there it will improve

[jfox12 in reply to Juice689]

Hey Juice689, thanks for letting me know. Approximately how long did it take for you to have some sensitivity again?

[Juice689 in reply to jfox12]

Months it took a while I am 68 you are much younger. I have no skin left at all now I am used to it I love the cleanliness of it, I had Balanitis Zoom for years it was horrible. Now I am very happy now. My advice to you is be patient time is a great healer try not to over worry the situation. Best wishes to you

[RobJ53]

That's very unfortunate. But before you panic, let's see if we can narrow down the issues. Need a bit more info though.

You need to take into account the "style" of circumcision you received. High or low (the amount of inner foreskin removed, otherwise known as how close the scar is to your glans - for example 1" or 1/8"? ) Were you cut for medical or aesthetic reasons? At a normal urologist or cosmetic circumcision specialist? Using "device" or freehand sleeve resection? Frenulum intact or removed? Are you able to masturbate successfully? Are you having troubles wearing clothes and still adjusting to the feeling? Is wearing clothes uncomfortable or is it barely noticeable? Have you ever worn your foreskin retracted before you got cut? Was said sex with or without lube? Sex with a man or woman? A one-off hookup or prior sexual partner? With or without a condom?

There are a lot of factors to consider. Also keep in mind that 2 months is just at the beginning of the point in which you are "allowed" to have sex. Your body and brain are still very much getting accustomed to the feeling. Things need to rewire before you can accurately determine if there is an issue or still adjusting. Guys have reported that a year or so later, they don't even remember what it was like to be uncut. Others feel differently for one reason or another. It's far too early to tell which category you are in.

The above questions are important in understanding your particular situation. Everyone is unique.

I'm not advocating for or against getting circumcised as an adult. Just being objective and trying to help. Also, I'm not a doctor, but have been researching adult circumcision for over a year and have actually talked with many folks to have had it done as adults. (There are forums and groups dedicated to the subject).

Let's see if we can help

[jfox12 in reply to RobJ53]

Hey RobJ53, thank you so much for sharing your insight. It was a low circumcision, I would say around 1/8''-1/6''. It was aesthetical reasons, but in part because the frenulum hurt quite a lot when retracted during sex, since then it has been fully removed and the procedure was done by a urologist. The freneulum is right now pinkish and still the only area of the penis still a bit sensible to touch. I never wore the foreskin retracted, this is the first time the glad is fully exposed. Sex has been with a women, a prior sexual partner, and without lube or wearing a condom.

Like I mentioned, it has been strange, my penis hasn't been able to stay fully erect during penetration its softens after a short while, nor am I able to feel once it has gone in. It has been quite frustrating since I'm not sure if its a result of the procedure that the body is still getting used to, or I'm suffering from ED or something else. I'm worried it can affect my sex life with my partner. I've heard folks mention that once they're able to have sex again they can feel the difference and that its better for them, but so far it hasn't been my experience.

Regarding clothes, its is no longer an issue, but after putting my penis back in my pants like after peeing, there is a very slight sensibility in the gland still when it comes in contact with my underwear. Its barely noticeable, but its still there. Also there have been days and moments when I feel the penis extra sensible with a slight stinging sensation in my urethra, not sure if it could be related to my body position that I'm preassuring against it.

Thanks so much for the assistance and the insights, hope I'm able to clear this sooner and be able to feel better.

[RobJ53]

So, it was actually 50% medical and 50% cosmetic. You actually had an issue (short/tight frenulum) and your circumcision addressed not only your desire to get cut but also your frenulum pain. Even though you said it was cosmetic, could not your pain have mentally/subconsciously pushed you to get cut? That adds a new twist to the situation and my primary train of thought is out the window.

If I understand correctly, you had not really ever touched your glans meaningfully because of the frenulum pain? Or that it was such a rarity, that if you DID have sex with the foreskin back, the pain was too irritating for you to enjoy it?

Was this done at a regular hospital/urologist or a special cosmetic circumcision facility? (there are several) Did you request a low cut or was that just what they did?

[jfox12 in reply to RobJ53]

In reality I wanted to this for quite a few years now, but I had always postponed it for one reason or another. When I started having intercourse with my partner more often I started to notice that having the foreskin pulled back was getting too painful to be able to enjoy sex. Initially it was manageable, but that’s not really how it should be either. That led me to want to want to get cut.

Masturbating before had a similar issue, but you kind of learn how to avoid the foreskin from fully retracting, but with sex it’s different and I found it harder to do so, and having to constantly stop to pull it wasn’t an option I wanted to consider for the rest of my life, so that was also something I took into account.

It was a private clinic in which I did it, and I didn’t really request the low-cut, but I prefer it this way definitely.

[RobJ53]

Alright, that makes things more clear. In my opinion, your brain needs time to rewire to the new feelings of pain vs pleasure. Sex and arousal are complex things, so best not to stress yourself out and get in a cycle which can lead to mentally enduced ED.

Also something to consider, and not that there is anything that can be done. It's probably not "news" but something that should be said for anyone else reading this. Low cuts, while esthetically more pleasing to some, do remove much if not all of the inner foreskin.

While there is much debate on if "fine touch sensitivity" actually directly correlates to sexual pleasure (real world accounts from people before and after getting cut suggest it is a non-issue to most), the inner foreskin is considered one of the top sensitive/sensual areas of the penis. Frenulum being also on top of the list. Scar, glans, and outer foreskin being lower on the list but in no particular order. As such, your brain may need extra time to reinterpret the feeling of sex given that you have less input from friction than if you had a high cut, or intact.

How about this. If you've almost never been able to touch your glans to get off, and now that's more or less the only sexual input your brain gets, alone or with someone else, it's an entirely new feeling. After getting circumcised, you not only eliminated a source of constant stress while jerking off or having sex (tight frenulum), you introduced a brand new primary sexual sensation. It's not going to be overnight.

Give it time. 2 months is nothing. I've been retracting nearly full time for a year, plus using the glans to get off for much longer than that. Only now my glans have been exposed to pants to the point where I don't notice if I'm exposed or foreskin rolled over. Lately I've been stimulating "just" the glans and inner foreskin via pulling back taught like a cut guy when jerking off. Best way to simulate being cut and explore if it's good for me or not. I've found that the pleasure level has increased significantly vs foreskin masturbation. Casually rubbing the glans while soft is a joy, but adding lube and being arowsed is phenomenal. Yes, orgasms take longer, but not irritatingly so. It's a different feeling. The pleasure seems deeper, if that makes sense. And the orgasms are all encompassing, whole body, shaking, moaning experience, vs the almost boring sensation of releasing semen via foreskin masturbstion. Have you seen those porn actors practically having seizures while cumming? Yeah, like that, I'm just not as hot. Haha! I haven't jerked off with my foreskin in a LONG time and I don't even find it that good anymore.

So, DON'T STRESS. Get used to things and just explore. Try different lubes, maybe warming, etc. I wouldn't start to base your entire future sexual life on the brand new sensation after very recently modifying your man bits. 😎

[Hidden]

stored my 4skin fully at 53yo, 65now and I have just the opposite experience. I have always heard from guys that got cut in adulthood that they were super sensitive till a few years into being cut- then the de-sensitivity kicks in like it does with guys cut at birth. You might want to get a second opinion on your procedure. What you chose to do might also have had an underlying emotional issue arise as well, you are now "exposed" and after years of being intact and protected, you are in a totally different world down there now with 70% less sex nerves. I know, I was once there myself. Good luck!- OAD

[RobJ53 in reply to Hidden]

OAD - don't freak the kid out 😂

If being circumcised was a totally end-of-sex experience and it was never to happen again to completion, then the US population would have rapidly dwindled to nothing. The cut or not to cut debate could go on forever, and it has, but we are talking about jfox12.

Don't stress. It'll only reinforce your ED and that's mentally unhealthy. Like I said, it's new to you. Give it time. 👍

[Hidden]

been reading in on this thread. Find out just hat kind of anesthesia was used. I have had a few guys tell me they had a nerve block since that area is so sensitive,.., I hope they were wrong and it was not- I had a shoulder unit installed in me in 2020 and they used a nerve block,..., I am still numb. I doubt it was a nerve block used on them but if it was- it will take time. As for tight 4skin, there is a great treatment for it that has helped a load of males , and it is all based on the 4skin restoration method,..., "skin expansion" which has been used in plastic surgery for over 75 years,..., it really does grow permanent skin, I did it in 2009 to retore mine so much as to have a natural overhang. Europe LOVES their 4skin,..., just go there and witness it, so they have methods to stretch tight 4skins so not to need surgery, and they work! phimostretch.com/pages/abou.... USA doctors do not tell this- there is no money in this method compared to surgeries but in Europe saving a 4skin can be almost a religious experience! So, we are all adults here and making our own choices,..., but can you make the best/right choice if you do not know all your choices? As a Naturist all my life, have had 100s of cut males tell me they want 4skin and then I tell them HOW I grew mine back in 2009. If I can grow over 4 inches of skin to regain my 4skin and all that comes with that, stretching a tight 4skin so it moves over the glan is a walk in the park for those that want to remain intact. You do what you want but at least know your options is all I am saying.

[Hidden]

This is a topic I've never really given much thought about until I joined this website. I'm 71 years old and was born in the US. I believe back in those days (50s), circumcision was done as a matter of fact on all boys but I could be wrong. My father was not circumcised so maybe in the earlier days when he was born, it had not been brought up yet in the medical field. When I was growing up, there was no modesty. We had public swimming pools with changing areas and showers and there was no thought given to everyone being nude. Same with my gym/exercise class in high school. Everyone showered together. The point I'm making here is that I got see a lot of penises and I don't remember seeing any non circumcised males back then. I don't know if it was a choice given to the parents or if the hospitals just always did it. Now I find it interesting to see older men on this site talking about getting circumcised. I'm curious to hear from some of the men that have had it done if it was a choice given to your parents at your birth or if they just don't do it in the UK or countries for that matter. My wife and I had it done to both of our boys at birth. I feel like it's much cleaner and sanitary although I'm sure it's quite traumatic for the little ones when it's done.