Any help with phimosis

[SamKV7]

I’m 19 and dealing with phimosis. Honestly, I didn’t know I could retract my skin back and actually see my head and glans until the age of 16 when I pulled my skin back with force. My skin isn’t fully closed and my head can be somewhat visible, or fully visible if I really pull my tight foreskin back (which can take time and is uncomfortable) and reveal The head of my penis which is very sensitive and not pleasurable really in any way. When I attempt sex with my girlfriend my foreskin can uncomfortably retract backward and causes discomfort to my skin + penis head where I can’t have sex. Most times my foreskin retracts to the point where it is unable to cover my head again unless I force it. Not sure at all what to do with the issue, I’ve tried steroid creams and all, but I’m really trying to stop this discomfort and continue with a natural and normal life, it’s been greatly affecting my physical and mental any help is appreciated !

[BryceD123]

Hey man, I'm sorry to hear that until 16 you weren't aware of this, I was the same we were never taught this in sex Ed or by my father so I feel a lil resentment. How long have you tried the steroid cream for?

After a year of trying my urologist suggested circumcision was a last resort but is a permanat solution but it's different for everyone. Have you tried lubricants with your partner to see if that helps at all.. But with your foreskin sticking behind the glans that can injure yourself if you force it too much.

I'd reccomend going to your urologist again and getting a professional opinion but if you want to dm me for advice or questions please ask away. I suffered with this problem for years and I finally got cut at 25 however I did suffer an unfortunate rare complication but I'm still happier than I was with phimosis

[Hidden in reply to BryceD123]

"I was the same we were never taught this in sex Ed or by my father"

.......

Wow, your statement is so interesting.... That's my problem to.

A bit embarrassing really, but hey, life goes on. I didn't know I had Phimosis until last Sept (2019). I am over 50, it was only when I went into Hospital with an issue, and they seem to struggle to attach a Catheter to me, which was very painful, I then thought, there's a problem here....??

When I then talked to the Urologist, and I mentioned Circumsion, he sort of implied, if I've come this far in my life without any problems, why have a cut now..... So 8mnths on, I still don't know, if I should or not...?

[SteveR12 in reply to Hidden]

I'm in my 50s also, have you tried all the gentle stretching techniques before you consider circumcision?

[Hidden]

Were I you, I'd get to see a urologist sooner rather than later, and together agree a way forward; please don't simply leave it. In the meantime, if sex is really important to you both, perhaps explore some other non-penetrative ways of pleasuring each other. Sex needn't be penetrative. Good luck and best wishes.

[jaglad]

You could try stretching but this needs medical advice really.

Meanwhile use plenty of lube this helped me and foreskin rarely pulled back unexpected

[jimfromcalif]

You're still relatively young, so it's an educated guess that's mostly a delayed development issue. If you're experiencing no signs of skin disease, you should get good results from applying tension to the opening. Skin expansion techniques are used in repairing skin burns and in breast reconstruction, so it's not experimental. In the case of a small foreskin opening, fingers are used to stretch it. Success depends upon frequency. You might also attempt to retract each time you pee.