People who used to be friends and close relatives have abandoned me. They cant deal with the negative person I have become.Ive never been this lonely before. To make things worse my anxiety has caused me to self isolate making things worse.
Ive lost the person I was 7 years ago and really think I have a bleak future. I think of leaving all the time , but dont have the courage to act on it. If i screw it up my life situation gets worse.
I can relate, but please know your are not alone. I’m new here but I’ve found this community to be so helpful and supportive. Just talking here makes me feel so much better!
Recently my mom passed, and since then my closest relationships, with my sister and niece, have not been the same. They feel so distant. I’m worried that they dont want to be around my sadness and grief, that I’m no fun anymore, I know that I haven’t felt the same for years because of the depression. I’m taking it very personally, it has hurt my sense of self, my confidence and it has made me intensely sad. But, then I think they are just grieving too. And they have their own families, their own lives, jobs, problems, etc. I realized my sadness is just coloring the situation negatively. That a lot of it is in my head, that I’m not a mind reader, that my thoughts and opinions are not facts, that maybe they don’t feel that way at all.
Maybe things haven’t really changed for the worse, for you, maybe they are just experiencing their own problems. Life does get in the way, for everyone. I have realized It’s important to be brave and to ask for help. Give them a little nudge, especially if you are feeling isolated. The worst thing that can happen is that they don’t respond favorably, but my guess is that they will be open to you. Especially if they know you are in need. Don’t try to hide it, try to show some vulnerability. That’s so hard for me, but it beats the alternative! And once I cracked the door open to show those vulnerabilities, they were receptive, and I felt seen.
Maybe your relationships have changed, but maybe you can still build upon them, change them. Right now it is slow going with my relationships, they are not as close as in the past, but Im forging ahead, hopeful. Maybe you can do that too!
If people/friends abandon you, they most likely are no longer friends....their loss.Relatives, i spose are more accident of birth and we don't always get on with them.
People around mood swinging people, often find us difficult to be around, when either manic or depressed. We can only do our best.
They also perhaps need to exercise patience, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness. We are a great opportunity for others to learn, if only they would see us that way.
And vice versa, our tolerance and forgiveness as to how we are dealt with etc
My first time on this chat
Love Sheelagh
This is why I came here. I feel abandoned by everyone I have ever been close to. They say I am mean and bring everyone down. I got out of an abusive relationship and when I see people acting poorly, I speak up. No one likes it. No one likes me. Everyone wants me to act like the person I was when I was being abused- quiet, faking being happy. I want to be actually happy. I want real connections with people. I want understanding that when you've been through something awful, you can't MAKE yourself be better because people are tired of hearing so many negative things. I know my situation isn't the same as yours, but I hear you- being rejected because you're not happy enough, super sucks
Yes, people want you to grin and bear it, to suffer in silence. I wish I were able to do that. This crap has destroyed my life distorted and twisted the person I might have been. I'm so f@&#my angry just thinking about it I'd like to put my fist thru a wall.
Hello! I'm new here and am happy to find this group.
Daily depressive insomnia is killing me slowly..
I want to feel happy 20 F
I don't want anything.
Being alone is suicidal atp for me
