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I have suffered from severe, highly treatment-resistant depression for over 30 years. I have tried every medication and every treatment without any success. I now live alone and struggle terribly to just make it through each day. I need a support network of fellow sufferers of depression to continue living this life. Please, if you're so inclined, perhaps offer me a couple words of support.

Thank you.

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gajh

Hello I offer you my support. How can I be of help? I am here for you.

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Ryanlion

Hi, have you tried LDN known as low dose Naltrexone. I have heard it helps those who are not successful with medication.

I can feel the pain in your words. I believe the only true hope for anyone in this life is a relationship with Jesus. Victor Frankl said “those who have a why to live can bear almost any how”. In the Bible start reading the book of John. You have a purpose in this life and the suffering might actually help you find it

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Gramas

I know how you feel. I too live alone and struggle to make it through every day. Other than medication I don't know what to do. Just know you are not alone and we are all here to support each other. Lets make it through another day.

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Nordie2024

Good morning, I just found this very helpful thread on Health Unlocked, regarding loneliness and depression, maybe it could be a bit of support for you? Here is the link:

healthunlocked.com/mdd-supp...?

I know what it's like to struggle with depression and loneliness all alone to somehow get through the day.... and I wish you lots of strength and as much support as possible - here and elsewhere - to make you feel better!

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Cookie2217

Hello there. I too have treatment resistant depression and suffer from major depressive disorder and my medications are not working any longer. This latest bad depression has lasted 4 years non-stop since before covid and has gone on so long has been the most troublesome of my entire life. There are some days I can't even manage to get out of bed because it's so debilitating. Do you have my good days though yesterday and today I was up and out and didn't play around all day and was very active with my family and my husband. That's a big change from my down days where I just lay in bed and try to sleep day and night because I withdraw an isolate from people and when friends call I can't even manage pick up the phone because it's too much for me to handle as I have no desire or interest in talking to anyone at that point. I left my job in 2023 after 20 years and resigned and went on unemployment until it ran out and unfortunately there were no extensions to be given and eventually that led to me losing my home and I am now loving my sister's basement with my husband and my beautiful Maine Coon cat Bella. The only place I have left to go is up from here as this is brought me to my knees. That being said I need to come to the realization that we only go around once and I need to make everyday count because as they say every day above ground is a good day and I need to be more mindful with gratitude each day I'm able to spend with my husband and my cat. I just heard of a friend of mine who is losing her house as it is gone into foreclosure and she had to file bankruptcy and lost her husband to suicide last year and I was really devastated to hear about all the pain and she's been through in the past year and it made me come to the realization that I could be the one unfortunately walking in her shoes having to deal with everything that she has had to endure and it kind of snapped me back to reality that I need to work a lot harder on forcing myself to get out of bed and get dressed and ready for the day and there's no need to spend all day in bed because I'm just wasting the day away and that's not what God put me on this Earth to do he put me here to help people and to share my story and my testimony with others in the hopes that might help someone else and I need to get back to doing that because it helps me and makes me happy when I can help someone else I just can't seem to help myself because I keep getting in my own way. There are many days where I've struggled just to make it to the end of the day so I know exactly how you feel there and I'm sorry that you are living alone but maybe you could possibly volunteer at an animal shelter or something like that to get out and about and more social with other people which might help your depression. Animals are such beautiful beings that bring out the best of us it might do some good to be around them as they love us unconditionally. I also have tried medications that haven't worked and I am asking my primary care physician to put me on Prozac instead of what I'm currently on hoping to find some relief from that and I've also joined a major depressive disorder study as there is a psychiatrist on staff and therapist because I don't have medical insurance either because I was too late for the enrollment period and have to wait until next year to qualify for state insurance. When I worked for the state for 20 years I never had to worry about any of that because I had great benefits and I miss that so much because I really like to go to therapy right now to help get me over the hump of this depressive episode enough is enough already it's time for healing. I so hope that you can find that glimmer of hope and light at the end of the tunnel I know it's there cuz I've been there before we just have to figure out a way to dig ourselves out of it once again so we can be welcomed back to living life on life's terms. I also have a lot of self-esteem issues and self-loathing problems from how to trauma that I have suffered and I don't feel worthy or enough or that I should be loved as much as I am but I need to start journaling again because that helped me so much to get all those feelings out. Have you ever journaled it's really gratifying and gives you a great release after you write all those problems down that are able to leave them there in the rearview mirror so to speak. I also practice breathing exercises and I'm going to practice gratitude every morning because each day I wake up God has granted me another day to spend with my husband and my cat Bella. I'm wishing you peace and well-being and I hope that you are feeling well once again soon.

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Cookie2217

Hi there. I suffer from major depressive disorder PTSD and adjustment disorder as well. I just am coming out of a four-year battle with Darkness which was so debilitating that I couldn't get myself out of bed or go to work I lost my state job due to my depression and then my home and now I'm living in my sister's basement so the only place to go is up from here because last year brought me to my knees. However my husband and I will be moving to Florida in September and it's both exciting and scary to leave everyone and everything behind here in New Jersey but it's only a 3-hour plane ride so I'll be up to visit at least once a year most likely in the fall to see the foliage as I will miss that living in Florida. I'm excited to come up with new ideas about how to decorate our new home which we will own thank goodness so we're never in this situation ever again. I am working part-time right now at a daycare center which helps but just getting out of bed in the morning is a pain in the ass I guess no one really wants to go to work and loves their job so much that they jump up with a smile on their face that's just not reality. The daycare center is a little bit difficult for me with picking the kids up as 54 and starting to definitely to definitely feel my age. I have signed up for online positions work from home so I can just type or do online support type work that's remote. I do definitely understand you when you say that it's tough to make it through each day as my depression is at times so debilitating for myself. Could you possibly volunteer somewhere and get out and about like an animal shelter or something like that or an organization that you like so you socialize a bit more as you said that you live alone which I'm sure could be lonely. Well you found your people your tribe so to speak everyone here is very friendly and offers great advice and I hope you find this community as helpful as I do. Wishing you peace and well-being hope to talk to you soon.

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