My symptoms have never completely settled althuogh it has been copable. I split from my husband of 13 years a couple of months ago and sadly have just lost a beloved pet. Now all the nasty stuff is back....severe headaches, muscles spasms, blurred vision and having a five minute capacity for anything. My joints are not too bad, it's all the other symptoms that I had at the onset that are flaring up including anxiety and feeling depressed. I know that stress affects Lupus but wondered how other people cope with life changes....I would hate to think that this is going to happen every time I hit a bump in life.