At 25 I started with joint pain. First Rheumy I saw asked me how many children I had given birth to. (None, as I have antiphosolipid syndrome and couldn't get full term). He told me there was nothing wrong with me and to go home and have a baby to "take my mind off my imaginary illnesses". He then wrote to my GP and said I needed psychiatric treatement as any woman who didnt have children was abnormal. He also suggested that perhaps I was using illegal drugs as my skin was pale (I have auburn hair so obviously have pale skin) I got an apology from the hopsital who said it was "cultural" as in his culture it is abnormal for a woman not to have children. A 2nd (female) Rheumy then diagnosed arthritis and I was fine for several years under this rheumy however, I then got moved to another clinic list and a 3rd (male) rheumy. He has said 2nd rheumy didn't know what she was talking about, nothing wrong with me, chucked me off his list completely, so I now have no rheumy at all. He did admit I need new knees, and hips, but that it was only OA. (I am under 40 years of age) Tests also show positive ANA, lupus/malar rash, photosensetive rash, antiphosolipid syndrome, raynauds. My GP, the ortheopeadic consultant and the dermatologist are convinced it is Lupus, but I just don't know where to go from here, and my GP wants me to see a consultant who specialises in Lupus. Can anyone recommend a consultant. I am so scared of seeing another male dr who will label me a nutter, despite test results. Why is it that some male doctors just assume we females are fluffy brained nutters and ignore our obvious physical symptoms?