Advice

[mik8la]

For the past three years I’ve been on Effexor, an anti-anxiety and anti-depressant but it caused me to gain a lot of weight. So I weaned off of it but I think I was kinda of naïve in thinking things would go back to normal. I have crying spells and I can’t find happiness in things I used to and I have more anxiety than ever. I recently moved to a new state for grad school and I have a basically nonexistent support system, my best friend is in a new relationship, and my family is 2000 miles away. I don’t open up to people well but I feel so alone and sad all the time. Any advice?

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Hello & Welcome mik8la

I am sorry you are feeling as you do and so many of us know how it feels so you are not alone

The first thing you need to do is see a Doctor

Tell them everything you have told us in your post they will understand

I am not a Doctor but I do think you would benefit from going on medication again but there are different medications and not all cause you to gain weight so if you can get to see a Doctor stress that is your fear and if they will prescribe something ask them if you could be prescribed something that does not have the side effect of gaining weight

Let us know how you get on and I hope others will reply to you even if to just welcome you but if you need to talk you know where we are and hopefully you will not feel so alone now you have found these Communities

Take Care x

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Hi

I wanted to say welcome to you.

I agree with what lulu says, it makes sense ..

Hope it helps being here 😊

Look forward to seeing you around x

[Charlie4444]

Hey Mik8la 💕

Now this may sound rediculous to most on this page, but I disagree, personally I believe that medication is not the answer. Think of anxiety as a liar, your mind is creating thoughts which your brain thinks are true. The problem is they are created, they are false. Anxiety is manipulating your brain with the thoughts that your mind creates and you act on them like you should, the problem is that you’re acting on false information.

Anxiety fuels itself, and we let it. The next time you feel anxious, to remind yourself that your processed thoughts aren’t true, they are made up, don’t fight the anxiety, just embrace the fact that your mind is stressed, it needs a rest, the more you battle anxiety the worse it becomes, don’t fight it.

Chemical imbalance is going to momentarily relieve your stress but it is not going to keep it from returning. You need to naturally de-stress your mind and let it return to normal functions.

This still may sound rediculous but you have to try to understand what I’m saying, your mind is tired and it has become out of sync with your brain because of that.

If your thoughts become rapid then remind yourself that they are only anxious thoughts and they are not real, work with them to show yourself what is true and what isn’t. Anxiety feeds itself, if you feed it by overthinking then it’s only going to get worse. Numbing yourself with medication will not fix anything. Understanding your thought process and how it’s affecting natural processes in the brain will.

Think about what I’ve said and give it ago. Work with your anxiety, don’t fight it.

Charlie (: