Need to be perfect

[Extremeanxiety]

Lying here in bed just thinking about what are my main problems, and because I can't stop thinking it's stopping me from sleeping and it's 1:15🙄 I just need to get it off my chest

I always feel the need to try my best to look "perfect" honestly I don't know what my vision of perfect is, tbh I don't really have one, all I know is I have to make sure my makeup, weight and everything looks okay before going out, to college or anything, I'm constantly looking in the mirror to check nothing has changed and I also feel like I need to impress everyone, I have a boyfriend who I've been with for just over a year, so I don't know why I feel like everyone needs to like me or find me attractive in order for me to have self approval, I know other people shouldn't matter, but even if I see them walking down the street I need everyone to like me

Or I'm going to stress what they think of me, if my makeup or certain things don't go right on myself it will cause my day to be ruined and I will feel so upset and anxious(more than usual) all day it's such a big issue, but I don't know if it's just part of anxiety or a separate issue in it's self, ( obsessing to be/look perfect

;(((( anyone else struggle with this? Because I feel like I'm alone with this particular topic:// I feel like only I feel the need to be perfect, please message me ur advice or comment/message and information u have about what I'm on about

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Hello

I think for most of us we have all felt the way you do especially when we are young and now a days there seems to be so much on TV and so much pressure aimed towards the younger generation giving out these concepts of perfection and you are right what exactly is perfection ?

It is something mainly that is in our minds and once we achieve something we have see as perfection then the mind wants more playing tricks on us feeling we need to look even better than we started out to think we did !

I know this is something that people say and in some ways I remember when said to me O yes whatever

But it is really true , how we look is like wrapping paper on a present ( this is trying to give an example )

So the paper is the most beautiful paper you have ever seen , yet when we take the paper of inside is the ugliest present we have ever seen

Yet there is a present just wrapped in plain paper that when opened there is the most sparkling , beautiful thing we have ever seen inside

And the point I am trying to get across is that it is true it is what is on the inside that counts

I know people can be attracted to looks but they only last so long in been appealing and then they are left with the person

Sometimes you can meet some one and not really find them that attractive but because their personality is so fantastic all of a sudden they become the most attractive person you have met

Try loving yourself , sounds like you are lacking self worth

Tell yourself everyday not how you look when you look through the mirror but who you are as a person and tell yourself when you do look through that mirror that you think you are ok just the way you are , then move on to telling yourself you like yourself just the way you are till you can honestly say one day when looking that you love yourself just the way you are

Once you learn how to love yourself , perfection will become less important

Take Care x