Relationships & anxiety

[Rachms11]

Anyone had anxiety all their life and in a relationship? How does it affect you with being in a relationship? I'm not coping

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Hello

I think one of the hardest things in life if we have anxiety or not is dealing with relationships

I have been married nearly 25 years but before that relationships never seemed to work out , I think a couple of reasons were maybe the cause

1. I was not ready

2. I was not with the right person

But eventually I did find the right one and he has the patience of a saint and even though it can sometimes be difficult it works

Do you want to give a little more detail to how you are feeling , what you feel is going wrong and we can see if we can help a little more

But believe me when I say you are not the only one anxiety or not that finds relationships can be hard work

lulu-1

[Rachms11 in reply to Hidden]

This is my 4th relationship. We've been together 1 year and up til last week I felt so sure about everything and he was the one and then I got pms which is always really really hard on me and now I'm obsessing over it thinking do I really love him??

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Hi

Not sure how old you are but have you heard the saying

" We have to kiss many a frogs before we find our Prince "

So 4 is not many

But you know that you have your hormones going wild at the moment and when mine are everything my hubby does irritates the life out of me , from the way he breaths , walks , chews his food to name a few I could gladly hit him and I do think O I wish he would just disappear but as soon as my hormones have settled down again I could not be without him !

Anxiety can also make us question everything to , it does not like us to be happy , love or to be loved , that would all help our self worth which it likes to take from us

If I were you , wait till you have settled down and in a better frame of mind , then only when you have make some lists

1. What you get from this relationship

All the advantages

2. What you don't get from this relationship

All the disadvantages

Then take a look at both lists side by side and see which one comes out on tops

No relationship is ever perfect , we will not feel like we are madly in love every day , they have there up's and down's but as long as the up's outweigh the downs in reality the real world that is as perfect as it gets and worth working on x