Living with Anxiety
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You're not alone...and not without hope

Hi Fellow Anxiety Sufferers!

Although there are a large number of support forums online, I quite liked the look of this one so took the plunge. I don't know why I've never done this before. It's quite cathartic to just get my thoughts out to be honest!

I've suffered with Anxiety Disorder for nigh on 20+ years now (I'm 47 now), although I've never been able to pin down a physical, emotional or mental event that triggered it off all those years ago.

One thing I do know, as I'm sure many of you out there have come to recognise, is that it is a self perpetuating ailment that is rooted in the sub-conscious. The problem with our sub-conscious is that it doesn't do a great job of differentiating what is real/not real and what is good/bad for us. It just does what it does and damn the consequences!

I recently came across some discussion regarding separation of sub-conscious events from conscious day-to-day activities. Although this delves into the murky realms of psychology, it can be simplified if we choose to view it in a more simplified manner.

Two methods I've used to 'disconnect' my own conscious from the sub-conscious onslaught during a panic/anxiety attack is to force myself to recall that

1) I have suffered such an attack innumerable times before for years, and they have always passed without serious incident. Telling myself "This too will pass" helps to calm the dread quite a lot.

2) Breathing is key - focus on breathing slowly and steadily - think 'Blue' as you breathe in, 'Red' as you breath out.....exorcise those demons!

3) Focus on something menial - whether it's a simple task around the house, or something as trivial as organising your desk at work... it will help distract your sub-conscious and take the focus of your conscious self away from the perceived symptoms of the anxiety

I hope this helps someone out there as it has for me. I'm not anxiety-free....particularly with a recent divorce making its presence felt in my life... but at least I can live with this, and not find myself spiralling into the hell that is depression.

Take care of yourselves everybody - you are the masters of your destiny!


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Well hi . It sounds like you are doing the right things. I think this might be useful to those who are new to anxiety. Welcome.


Hi Daz and welcome here . I think your Post was very helpful and its

Always helpful to distract yourself too, kind of focus on something silly ,

I usually do a chore like quick clean bathroom if I'm anxious. So I have a clean

Bathroom . Lol.

Hannah xx


Hi Hannah, thanks for the welcome! I too will clean till the cows come home sometimes, but that may be the OCD kicking in, which doesn't help matters!


hi daz, welcome to the site, read your post to my o/h , so when she anxious she is going to do just that, she has a special table we have just bought, she is going to give it a good clean whenever she feels herself going into a panic attack, wil see how it goes. thank you. jasper xx


Hi Daz and welcome :)

Good post!

I hope that it helps fellow sufferers :)



Hi Daz, great post. Welcome and thanks for sharing, I think many will find this advise useful.


Sounds nice and simple to do.

Thanks for sharing.


Hi and welcome,

Thank you for your suggestions but the distraction doesn't have to be cleaning it can be anything. personally i'll phone a friend, look for stuff on the internet read or watch telly or if things are really bad i might go out on my bike or for a walk if I have the time.


Absolutely...anything to keep the subconscious at bay! ;-)


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