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42 days in COVID icu

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My husband has been in icu with COVID for 42 days and on a ventilator for 37 days he was on cpap for the first few days and then on 1st September he was put on a ventilator but on day 14 his bowel perforated so had to have emergency surgery to clean out his stomach cavity and repair his bowel .he wasn’t expected to survive and I was called in but he did. He then developed severe sepsis and I was called in again to say goodbye miraculously he survived again. He started to improve and they were going to do a tracheostomy which they tried in icu but couldn’t do it so the booked for theatre the next day however he had developed sepsis in his chest so was unable to have it. again I was called in to say goodbye again but he’s still here he is on dialysis and he is losing his toes on his left foot because there was no blood flow the only thing he can now move is his eyes because he’s so weak I’m praying for him to survive this I’m desperately needing someone to talk to I’m so frightened of losing him he is the love of my life his name is Syd

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tgurske

We are going through something similar here in Florida. It sounds like Syd is fighting and I hope that he has a full recovery. Be there with him if you are allowed to, and remember that you can give him the will to keep fighting. I will pray for him.

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Thank you so much for your kind words it means so much to me I’ve just been told he I negative and I can visit for 1 hour a day I’m willing him to recover

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FamilyHistorian

Anyone in icu, for what ever reason, is at risk of catching all sorts of infections. My family were called in twice, I was in a coma for quite some time and had a trachy. Talking to people who have been through this really help. I belong to a group CC-SN.org (critical care support network) which supported me and my family. They have a relatives drop in on a Tuesday at 2000 via zoom and you would be more than welcome

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Hi thank you so much for replying I would like that how do I do it

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AKAICUsurvivor in reply to

email info@cc-sn.org or look on FB at groups -ask to join critical support network ( private group 😊)

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Critical care support network

Thank you so much

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ladypool

My husband has been in the hospital for 3 months and just got off the ventilator after 52 days, after a long list of complications he had for Covid in ICU. The doctors told me so many times he wasn't going to make it and I told them to find me someone who can find solutions. During this time.. there are alot of resident doctors who have to take over and make a lot of mistakes which contributed to the errors that occurred with my husband (prolonging infection due to AC going out which caused the pneumonia to get worse, flipping him the wrong way, nurses also flipping him wrong). Several more infections etc.

I got in several arguments with the doctors and put them on their toes until they finally brought in a veteran doctor who gave us solutions and changed the course of his treatments. He started recovering fast.

It's been hell but now he is finally expected to make a full recovery and he's expected to leave the hospital soon to rehab. I prayed everyday like no other because it was super frightening.

If you can zoom, webcam your husband. Do it.. I did that with my husband as much as I could. Music therapy, talked to him about how much I loved him and to not let these doctors decide his fate for him. Only him and God can come to that. Even the nurses told me that they believe when they hear someone close to them talk. It can definitely help with recovery.

I'm so sorry about your husband's situation this. It is hell on earth and I wouldn't wish anyone to go through this. I cannot tell you the days I felt like I couldn't get out of bed due to the stress.. especially since it's your significant other.

Hang in there, it sounds like Syd is still fighting and he's determined.. give him words of encouragement whenever you can... the will to live is certainly stronger than the will to let go, don't be afraid to speak up if you feel something is off. He can still recover from this.

If you're able to visit then definitely do that because I wasn't allowed to visit my husband at all for 3 months. Take advantage.. I'm sure that will help greatly... sending you positive energy.

in reply to ladypool

Thank you so much for your reply it gives me so much hope I was actually allowed in to see him today for 1 hour as there is now no COVID on icu and Syd has tested negative it’s so hard to see him like this he’s so full of fluid and so many tubes & wires I constantly told him how much I love him and how amazing he is when he opens his eyes I can see the fear in them the nurses tell me it because of nightmares caused by the morphine I pray he will improve he’s been static since last Sunday

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Yes and keep reassuring him. I'm praying the fluid starts to drain out. Once that starts.. thats a good sign for sure. Just remind him to be strong and that he's going to make it through this because that's what they need. Someone to convince them it's going to be alright and to be strong. I cannot tell you how many times I saw fear in my husband's eyes, even though I had fear of my own to tackle. I made sure he knew there was nothing to fear as fear is an enemy of ours. Hang in there. Don't let the doctors get the best of you.. when they would tell me something I would so "no.. no no no.. not happening". Even they started questioning themselves.

I'm all about manifesting.. don't let the doctors decide for him. They're not God and they always have cases where they are proved wrong. That's also because they expect the worst but hope for the best. That's their protocol.

He is still battling and there is still plenty of hope. Like what my mother said.. its not over until it's over. Sending positive vibes and prayers.

in reply to ladypool

Thank you so much for your reply I’ve just come back from seeing Syd there’s no change but he seemed calmer today he did open his eyes and I kept telling him he is amazing and I love him and he can get through this I hope he can hear me I kept stroking his head his infection markers are still high he’s still on dialysis and having blood transfusions every day he still has sepsis but I won’t give up xx

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holdtheprozac

I was in ICU for a month on a ventilator and for the first couple of weeks I was immobilised and it was frightening. In retrospect I found the very best thing a family member could have done for me was to just be there talking to me, telling me what was going on and reassuring me because the worst part is not really knowing what is happening. The doctors and nurses talk to the patients, but we don't know them and it just seemed like a dream to me, so that wasn't reassuring at all. I know it is really scary to see us like that (my daughter told me so) and I totally empathise, but just to be there and hold his hand and be a familiar voice - even if it's on zoom - is an immense help. I wish you all the very best xxx

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ps. the drugs do cause nightmares and hallucinations sometimes, so don't be frightened if he seems to be disoriented.

in reply to holdtheprozac

Thank you for the reassurance this is all so scary

in reply to holdtheprozac

Thank you so much for your kind words

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Retro58

Wishing Syd well it's such a long journey I feel for you and your family.💗

in reply to Retro58

Thank you so much everyone is so kind on here it means so much to me as I know you all have your own struggles but still make time for others I think this is the platform for Angels x

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