Final Update With My Mom

My mom has passed away. She developed DIC and literally bled to death. The doctors transfused only once and I watched my mom die. She originally came into the hospital with septic shock. Because she has cancer, the doctors were convinced she wasn't worth treatment and resources. I fought for her for 83 days to no avail. She went septic once more in the hospital. No diagnostic imaging was ever done nor did they have her medical records. My mom literally hasn't had her medicine from home in 83 days. My oxygen is gone. It's so hard for me to breathe. I feel like a failure and helpless. Even in the final hours, they had no mercy. She was denied therapies and treatments. I had to research various things and beg the nurses to call the doctors. They never treated her Lupus. Their egos took my mom away. I wish this on no one. If you have a loved one in the hospital, be there for them. It makes a world of difference. And don't be afraid to be vocal. They count on patients and their loved ones being ignorant.

-Niki

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  • So sorry for your loss. Your mums in a better place now and outta pain. Thoughts are with you and your family x

  • I can relate to your frustrations with doctors. At times it felt as though they look at statistics rather than human beings. They can be sociopathic at times. I had to ask on several occasions would you do this to your family. I can't imagine your loss but your story means everything. I hope that you find peace and that every one involved in the mistreatment of your mother get what they deserve.

  • Thank you all. It hurts like hell. I never saw this day coming.

  • Oh my gosh I'm so sorry for your loss I don't know what else to tell you I'm so sorry 😔

  • Thank you!

  • Am so sorry to read about your mum truly devastating IF your in uk you can write to quality care commision about you and your mums shody treatment.

    Try not to be to hard on your self AS you know it was nothing you had done but sepsis.

    So sorry

  • Thank you. I live in the US. I'm going to file a complaint with several boards and seek ramifications such as licensing removal. It's really sad.

  • Am so sorry am doing same in uk re hospital treatment of my dad.

    Know how your feeling nearly last my dad 3 times threw neglect and sepsis.

    With my dad was post op care that sucked.

    I would get doctors notes befour filling anything SO stuff dont go missing or get changed or lost.

    Wishing you well in your action and so sorry

  • Thank you. I appreciate you all. It made my journey in ICU tolerable.

  • Am just sorry was not better news was reading.

  • niksofly I'm so unbelievably sorry for your loss.

  • So so sorry for your loss nikki.lots of very special love to you ,and be strong x

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