Final Update With My Mom

[niksofly]

My mom has passed away. She developed DIC and literally bled to death. The doctors transfused only once and I watched my mom die. She originally came into the hospital with septic shock. Because she has cancer, the doctors were convinced she wasn't worth treatment and resources. I fought for her for 83 days to no avail. She went septic once more in the hospital. No diagnostic imaging was ever done nor did they have her medical records. My mom literally hasn't had her medicine from home in 83 days. My oxygen is gone. It's so hard for me to breathe. I feel like a failure and helpless. Even in the final hours, they had no mercy. She was denied therapies and treatments. I had to research various things and beg the nurses to call the doctors. They never treated her Lupus. Their egos took my mom away. I wish this on no one. If you have a loved one in the hospital, be there for them. It makes a world of difference. And don't be afraid to be vocal. They count on patients and their loved ones being ignorant.

-Niki

[vicster68]

So sorry for your loss. Your mums in a better place now and outta pain. Thoughts are with you and your family x

[Troubledwife]

I can relate to your frustrations with doctors. At times it felt as though they look at statistics rather than human beings. They can be sociopathic at times. I had to ask on several occasions would you do this to your family. I can't imagine your loss but your story means everything. I hope that you find peace and that every one involved in the mistreatment of your mother get what they deserve.

[niksofly in reply to Troubledwife]

Thank you all. It hurts like hell. I never saw this day coming.

[FiannaWarrior]

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry for your loss I don't know what else to tell you I'm so sorry 😔

[niksofly in reply to FiannaWarrior]

Thank you!

[Hidden]

Am so sorry to read about your mum truly devastating IF your in uk you can write to quality care commision about you and your mums shody treatment.

Try not to be to hard on your self AS you know it was nothing you had done but sepsis.

So sorry

[niksofly in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I live in the US. I'm going to file a complaint with several boards and seek ramifications such as licensing removal. It's really sad.

[Hidden in reply to niksofly]

Am so sorry am doing same in uk re hospital treatment of my dad.

Know how your feeling nearly last my dad 3 times threw neglect and sepsis.

With my dad was post op care that sucked.

I would get doctors notes befour filling anything SO stuff dont go missing or get changed or lost.

Wishing you well in your action and so sorry

[niksofly in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I appreciate you all. It made my journey in ICU tolerable.

[Hidden in reply to niksofly]

Am just sorry was not better news was reading.

[Misty36]

niksofly I'm so unbelievably sorry for your loss.

[elaine3840]

So so sorry for your loss nikki.lots of very special love to you ,and be strong x

[markmason095]

Dear niksofly, So sorry for your loss! I really hope the hospital pay. I want to check something with you, are you sure your mum had septic shock because i thought that would kill someone very quickly but your mother stayed alive for 83 days! The reason i ask is because that 's what my father died of who was 82 but i believe he had it when he came into hosptal but they didnt put ICU until 9 days!

[Color27]

Hi Niki, I just stumbled upon your post and I just want to say I am terribly sorry for your loss. Sharing with your pain as I too lost my mom. She was brought to the hospital for sepsis and eventually DIC. They also just gave her 1 unit of blood and afterwards determined that other treatment would render futile since she's been sick for 7 months due to complications of covid. From what the doctor explained DIC means the blood doesn't know whether it would clot or bleed since the body is overcome by the infection (sepsis). It's a horrible feeling as we were only allowed to come in visit her when she was no longer responsive. It's the worst feeling ever as I know to myself that she was scared to be alone in the hospital. I hope our moms know how much we fought for them. I was mad that they never allowed us to visit when she was awake. I know it would've made a difference. Maybe she felt abandoned? I have so much guilt. Wished this was all a bad dream but it's not. All I can do is pray for peace.