I come from a large family, but don't see them very often as most live in Scotland and I live in Surrey. And when we do fly up for a short visit I make a big effort to be sociable so probably giving the impression all is ok. What they don't see is me being out for the count for a week afterwards!
One sister is sympathetic (she has polymyalgia) and I think my brother is coming round to realisation after we had words because I'm not going up for Christmas to do Christmas dinner for my 90yr old parents. But my other sister won't take it on board that I am not well. I think she had ME 20yrs ago and now insists she too has polymalgia, but she has a very demanding academic career travelling all over the place, whereas I am fighting the urge to stay in bed all day.
She and her husband have tickets for the olympics and want to stay with us for three nights, but I have e-mailed to say I can't say yes until nearer the time . But now she has replied that she will need to know soon otherwise she won't be able to get affordable accommodation. My husband has said that in that case I will have to say no, but I know it won't go down at all well, with her and probably other family members.
How do you say no to people without them thinking you are being unreasonable?