Last night I went to a class called "Realising your Potential" It was run by School of Life in London ( theschooloflife.com ) and run by a chap called John-Paul Flintoff.
I was really there to further explore my thoughts on New Zealand and my career path and the need for meaningful adventure in my life... however I thought many of the points that we discussed were particularly relevant to getting over an illness and / or getting on with your life...
Firstly he asked us to arrive with three "seed ideas". For us lot that could be to get active / walking, start working again, reclaim our lives, do something to challenge our brains, take control of the illness, talk to our doctors and let them know what we want.... whatever ever it is for you, keep it in your mind.
He asked us what was stopping us from doing our thing... for most people it was fear - the fear of losing control, failing or what other people thought... By saying your fears aloud to another person, we give ourselves permission to own the problem and find a solution. He's right, as soon as I said that I was worried about what other people might think, I realised that this is my life, and I need to do what's best for me!
He then suggested that we discover who are our supporters, write your name in the middle of a page and write down your support network around it, the more supportive they are to you the bigger the arrow between you, if support goes both ways then use two arrows... write people down that you support but who do not support you back. Now look at the most supportive people to you, who are the ones that will be the most helpful with this idea. These are the people you need to talk to about this idea...
We discussed that all big changes are made from many tiny steps, so recognising the first tiny step you need to take is crucial. This could be talking to the doctor or asking a friend to come with you so you can tell the doctor what's really bothering you about your care, or it could be going for a short walk, or writing a letter to someone who has helped you in the past....
At the end of the session we were asked to stand up and say one thing we had taken from the class, what our idea was and what we would do about it in the next 24 hours (the theory being that if you can't do anything - make a phone call, research, book an appointment, walk a few steps etc - in the next day, what makes you think the next day will be any different!?)
Finally, we discussed that this was today's idea - it might be THE idea and motivate you into a whole new life or just a new hobby but tomorrow you may have a different thought and there is absolutely no shame in that!
It was a really great course and I recommend it to any Londoners, however please have a think about what you want to achieve in your own life and see if the steps above could help you!
Hope this helps someone - it helped me