Difficult day

[SecondLife]

Today is my birthday, the first one on my own since my husband passed away recently but I didn't want to crash the healthy eating (can't get to the shops anyway) so as a treat I cooked myself some low carb pancakes with fruit and yogurt for breakfast and even found a low carb lemon cake for later on.

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Hi SecondLife, I have to say that I feel for you as its special days anniversaries that bring home your grief so you obviously miss your husband today and achingly so.

I think that the best thing that you can do is to talk about it and may be do something today that reminds you of your husband in a positive and happy way.

3 years ago I was out for a bike ride and a neighbour joined me for a while before he was hit by a car and telling his wife I was with him before he died was heartbreaking for both of us. And whenever I met her at first she would burst into tears but then she would get me to tell her how we were laughing and joking together and how happy he was and that gave her comfort. Do you know the weird thing is I felt so guilty because I came home, so I can't even begin to imagine what emotions you must be feeling today. And as hard as this is to do your husband would want you to be happy and its worth reminding yourself of this and I wish you well and a very happy birthday. 😊

Here's a link for fear bereavement counselling and I'm sorry that this is all that I can offer you.

cruse.org.uk/get-help/local...

Best wishes,

Jerry. 🙏

[Zest]

Hi SecondLife

I would also like to wish you the best for your Birthday today - I know you have mixed feelings about it - and understandably so, but I'm glad that you cooked yourself some nice food to enjoy, and I hope that you are able to enjoy the rest of your Birthday.

Best,

Zest

[rosie-2015]

Happy birthday SecondLife I hope you've had a nice one, I'm sorry for your loss, you must miss him a lot.

Gentle hugs Rosie xx 🙏

[Fruitcake100]

Happy Birthday, I do hope you manage to have a happy day, it must be so hard for you, as time passes, the happiness on the photos comes back to you and you will love looking at them without the sadness hitting you . I hope you have family or friends to help you through the day or if not , go for a long walk and smile at everyone you pass , it just makes a connection and it will make you feel better. Hug x

[Cooper27 Administrator]

The firsts are always the hardest, but it sounds like you worked hard to make it not so tough.

I hope you had an ok day, and enjoyed your pancakes

[SecondLife in reply to Cooper27]

it was ok until the evening by which time I had run out of thing to do, pancakes were delicious and I had enough left over for this morning with grilled bacon and sugar free maple syrup

[Cooper27 Administrator in reply to SecondLife]

I'm sorry to hear that you'll know to plan for that next year, and it will get easier.

I'm very impressed you stuck to your diet despite the tough day, it shows what a strong willed person you are! You'll be ok.

[Murphy113113]

Happy birthday, every “first day” is hard stay strong and remember the good times things will get better