dont fit in

[nick_01]

Hi i feel i dont fit in anywhere or on this site as i am only 25 in a wheelchair and cant speak

[bikerlifestyle]

why do you think you don't fit in here?

i am in a wheelchair too i was 20 when i first had problems so do know how you feel

non of us hear has exactly the same problems as each other,but all are as devastating to that person.

the 2nd question you need to ask yourself is where do you want to fit in?

[nick_01]

i feel i dont fit in because every 1 is talking about differnt things that happen 2 them with there head injury and that stuff doesnt happen 2 me

[bikerlifestyle]

but then you have stuff happen to you that doesn't happen to others

the symptoms may be different but the devastation and emotional fallout is the same, if that make sense

and as callous as this might sound, only you can decide where you want to fit in, in real life.

[bikerlifestyle]

sorry i dont mean that to sound harsh

[Onceaborderer]

At least there are people here you can ask questions and get answers that may make sense, that is the one comfort on this site. I have went 17 years not understanding what the hell is going on, and now I found this site a lot of my questions from over the years are now starting to make sense. That is a comfort but not a solution, but gives me a platform to work from, and I'm sure as questions get answered for you, will give you a platform as well mate.

[Lubilu01]

Of course you fit in, as with every situation in life, we all have different experiences and its good to share them. I could say I don't fit in as it is both my parents who have had a brain injury, not me, but I can learn little bits from all your experiences. It is really helpful and as I read everyone's experiences I genuinely care about each and every person, that's why we are all here, to learn, share and care. Nick, you may have had different experiences but this is a community of like minded people who all understand each others situations and only want to help each other. Don't be disheartened or feel like you don't fit in, share your experiences and offload your grievances! Look forward to hearing from you soon x

[Hidden]

Don't fit in? If you've bashed your brains out you very much fit in here.

We all have our own tales, its not a case of 'my blood clot was bigger than yours' or 'my headache puts flashing lights up and plays music', it's all about relating your experiences when others ask [or tell 'em anyway and ruin their day] and let those asking benefit from your input.

Never, ever think you don't fit in just because yours, or our, injuries are a bit different. It doesn't matter one iota. It's about helping each other and we all have a worth of advice to give, even if it's totally wrong.

You keep posting Nick, and try to be positive in your outlook.

[Hidden]

nick get a grip

carnt talk you got plenty to say

no friends we all listening

no bird internet disability dating

come on lad if its forever then its forever

make the most of it ill be your bud

most pepole try hard to make there lives better

who says you should be any different

you do! all your posts same

i could live under a cloud but it would be crap

smile and the world smiles with you/ not for you

do not leave this site as you need some thing in your life

and i will miss your blogs

chin up go on then chin up an smile how does it feel

are you doing it i hope so

[Lubilu01 in reply to Hidden]

leeleelee (lee!) I think this reply is lovely, actually brought a tear to my eye and a smile to my lips x

[iforget]

Nick have you had any counselling? It really can help.

Any life changing condition can be traumatic however it happens. We all have different stories to tell, we were all different people before our injuries and we are different now.

You are you and your experiences are personal to you...but you do have common ground with the rest of us because we all had the rug pulled from beneath our feet...we have all ended up with a life we did not plan or want, we have all lost something...

and we have probably all been through the dark days that follow. The why me, its unfair, I'm only x years old, I've lost this, I can't do that...these are all things we have faced and things that many of us realise we have to let go or they will drag us down further and hold us back from moving on.

This stuff sucks...it really does... but it is here and there is nothing we can do to turn the clock back. We each have to work our way through it, find a way to turn our gaze from what we have have lost and start looking for things we can do...things we want to do.

Nobody will tell you this is easy...its not. But it is very true to say that is is difficult to move forward when you are looking back.

This may not be the life you envisioned but it is the one you have got...it is up to you to find ways to make it into a life for you. When you are ready, there are is a whole world of opportunity waiting for you. Life might never be the same, but different can be good too... There are people who will help you if you let them but nobody can do this for you...

It is hard to accept all of this and everyone gets there in their own time. I wish you peace on your journey.

[brighton88]

I'm sad that this has happened to someone so young, and I can see that the younger someone is they are less likely to have formed relationships and established themselves. That must be tough for you. What ever our age, there is always a period of adjusting which is not easy. Please accept my words when I say it does get easier. I have always tried to accept that this is me, as much as the other person before my illness. Life is different and can still be fun iforget is right when he writes that you have a world of opportunities ahead of you

[leeleeleelee]

well said pepole

positive mental atitude

NOT pre mental abandenment

smile nick an the world realy does smile with you