In 19 days its a year later....

In 19 days time it will be a year ago my accident happened. I still ask myself what's wrong with me but I know what happened, I know what I have came through and I know the person I am today. I have made, in my opinion, a decent recovery but still working on it. I am a different person for my family and myself by not being able to cope with stress properly, having my temper cause me to say things at times when I never used to, not understand why people say I am " amazing and strong", why I feel a failure for lots of different things. I have it in my heart to change the best I can to help all of these negatives become a more positive step. Yes I have changed my diet, drink less fluids, have gone back to work full time after 5 months phased return, i drive again, I accept I have SIADH, accept I still have a recovering brain but I just know that without my partner and family around me I wouldn't be a person to try to be positive. My partner deserves more than a star.Trying my best every day is the most I can do, but i know I will do it one day.

[Leaf100]

hi SSounds like you are doing really well, but maybe feeling a bit of imposter syndrome?

It's ok to be you and keep along your healing journey - and also accept somethings may be different for the longer term- you are still you. Some things take loner to go away and some may never quite be the same, and you may just get to where you don't notice much different. The journey is different for all of us.

Either way, you can find some peace and be ok where you are.

You've really made amazing progress so far, and younare still in the healing phase - the first 4 years it's pretty fast and then it slows down after that.

Best wishes,

Leaf

[Hidden in reply to Leaf100]

I know I will take more time to recover bit I feel its been long enough, in a way, maybe because I have had to go through so many appts and still dealing with having a few changes because of accident that will hopefully change again. Thank you though, hope you are well too.

[Jonty77]

Sounds like we might share the accident date or at least very close. November 11th will be two years for me. It’s very slow and steady but I am still improving; either that or I’m just getting better at being the new me; or I suspect a combination of the both.

Have you planned something nice for survival day?

[Hidden in reply to Jonty77]

No I haven't planned anything, but it's early days yet and I might have time to think about it. My date is 12th November, so although as I feel it's been a long year I k ow others think it has gone quick. Hope you are well today.

[Forrest1512 in reply to Jonty77]

Survival day celebrations are a must!

Have the chance with your loved ones to both remember why you’re all still here and also how well you’ve done on recovery

[paxo05]

Hi there and well done. Yep I know you've heard that before but yes we'll done. Well done on starting to accept you have changed. Well done for trying to get on with your life.

So you are doing well, but obviously feel you want to do better. You will , just give it time.

The idea of celebrating your accident date is not that strange. You are celebrating surviving and more importantly still living.

It may be a strange day of mixed feelings and emotions so good luck.

Once again well done,

Pax

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Thank you. I am trying my best every day and some are not as good as others and that's when I realise I am lucky to be here. The bad days I have make me feel guilty I have put my family through this but it also makes me realise that it's a time for me to see if I can be more positive. Hope you are well too.

[Shreds]

It sounds like you are doing great and recovering well. I did read in a neuro book that we should try not to fixate on our “date” and it took me six years to attain that goal, but I can still quote it instantly like a birthday. But why not. You have a second chance at life and many dont get that opportunity. So well done.

Whilst it is quoted that the majority of the recovery takes place in the earlier years and you are still in that phase, it still continues and I can attest to that occurring. We are survivors and the more positive things we can find, the better things get.

Anyway keep going, there will be hurdles but you sound well equipped to clear those. Its good to hear positive stories from those like yourself as it gives the rest of us both hope and fellowship that we are not alone.

[Hidden in reply to Shreds]

I often feel I need the reassurance that I'm doing everything g OK or good but I know that I am, in a way anyway. It still comes across to me that I'm not doing better but should make more of an effort but every day getting up and saying to myself it's a good day, I can do this better than yesterday helps. Thank you and I hope you are doing fab

[MaryH75]

Hi well done on your recovery so far. I'm almost 6 months into recovery and understand everything you have described. I sometimes feel like I'm living in the twilight zone snd just looking into my life. I think I'm finally acknowledging that this has happened and life has dramatically changed for my family and I. I'm my own worse critic but trying to retrain my brain to see positives instead of the negative. Tough going with this dodgy brain of mine but taking it day by day. You should be proud of yourself ❤️

[Hidden in reply to MaryH75]

You should be proud of yourself too for being here. I totally understand you saying you feel your worst own critic and trying to retrain your brain, thats how I was feeling. Now I realise it's not needing retraining it's needing a help to cope or adjust to things that I am not coping with or how I feel negative. On the plus side I am making myself feel more positive that I can do this. I'm lucky to be here so I should feel lucky to have the chance of making it a new me to be happy about. Well done you for your 6 month recovery, you are doing well. 😊

[Forrest1512]

Yes Sshhh! it’s really great to hear some positives! Keep it up 💪🏻

I know very well the daunting prospect that feeling like you’ve changed for the worse and feeling guilty on your family. But, I was once told and remind myself often that people do change in their lifetime, develop and act differently, due to life’s events. That’s absolutely natural and you should try to see the positives… I can personally reflect and see that I’m atleast more empathetic and appreciate the little things more. So try not to feel bad for feeling different, and just remember that family members are still there.

I’ve also recently learnt that ‘everything happens for a reason’ so try and find some positives and embrace any new thoughts and ideas.

I was also told that the 18 month mark is usually a pinnacle moment in recovery, so be patient and see what happens. I won’t promise it all gets better as we’re all different.

Keep up the good work 💪🏻

[Hidden in reply to Forrest1512]

Thank you, it means a lot to here from other people. I keep saying to myself as long as I can make a small change every day I can be a better person. Thank you for being honest though.

[skydivesurvivor]

Wow!! U achieved more than many of us have!!! Welcome, hope you’ll inspire loads of us. Take care n keep safe!

[Hidden in reply to skydivesurvivor]

Thank you, I don't feel I have done amazingly, I just feel I'm trying my best. So thank you for being honest too. Take care too. 🙂