Hello everyone, I don't know really how to start, but my grandpa has suffered a brain aneurysm on Saturday and ever since has been in an induced coma. Doctors say that it's 100% he will not wake up. I am also not in the same country as my grandparents and I find myself without any control. My mom flew in today to go see them, but there was only one more ticket left for the airplane so I couldn't go. This is the first time a close family member is dying and I can feel the effects of it. I don't really know what to do or how I can help and be there for my mom, my uncle and my grandma who are really really affected by it, especially my grandma. Imagine spending 50 years with someone and all of a sudden they are slipping away. I can't even imagine what that must be like for her. I was actually raised by my grandparents and view them as my parents as well so it is very hard. I am a christian, so I have been praying for his salvation, maybe him being in a coma is in a way his last chance of setting things right with Jesus and giving his life to him. I don't know if this makes sense to anyone but it's what I like to believe my grandpa is doing right now. I feel myself in a constant state of anxiety, thinking that every phone call I get is the one when they tell me he has passed away. And I know this is only the beginning, we haven't even had the funeral yet, and I feel like I am literally going to break when I will see him be put in the grave. I know everyone's grandparents eventually die, but if there is anyone here who can give me some kind of advice or share if they have gone through similar things that would bring me some comfort in feeling like I am not alone.
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My grandpa is in a coma
suffered the same heartache as I hope you’ll find many others on this site. Lost my grandmother years back, was running a freezer center when told. Sobbed my heart out against a stack of Birds Eye peas at =20 degrees?!! Sadly y now coming to that terrible hard time of life?!! Am 58, done marriage, christenings & now at the age when burying family friends has become the norm?!! Lost 5 family members last year, youngest was a niece to drug overdose on hat would have been her grandfathers birthday . Left a 5 year old daughter too. See! It’s weird but I bet y lost y pain for a nanosecond whilst reading this? I think deep down y very strong minded? This will help y support both mum n gran? When tough times come I’ve learnt to smile to spite the problem, try it? Discretely or the men in white coats ll come to cart y off?!! See, a little twitch at the corner of a traumatised mouth?!! We are all thinking of you at this trying time!! Unseen, unknown people who’ve been theee?!! Come visit to rant, grieve or whatever!! Good luck n type soon?!! SMILE?!! Xx
Thank you, I'm sorry for all the loss you have suffered, I can't even imagine what that must have been like. It's really crazy to think about how fragile life really is, and how God can change things in the span of seconds, it's something I can't really put my mind on. Maybe it's something beyond our human minds to understand. But I think it can unite us, we all go through this at one point or the other. Grieve is also so weird, I don't know the last time I experienced such an overflow of emotions. Same as you said, I either cry or I laugh about it
Give u a laugh?! In 2000 I suffered a traumatic brain injury. Was in an induced coma for 4 weeks. When I came round was convinced I went up to the purely gates. Tried to scale them. My 2 dead big sisters were being held by friend had buried a month before! They were keeping St Peter away from opening them, told me I had a job still to do?!! Later on I supported mum through dad’s demise. They’d looked after me for 18 years. Supported visited daily mum in hospital as she died of dementia. Me & bro sat with her daily, other sis n bro only turned up the night she passes!! Life sure is tough! But we can deal with it!!
Thoughts and prayers are with you. Have hope 🌻
Thank you so much! I have hope for his spirit's salvation
You might not feel it at the moment but you will find a way of coping. If you need to cry , then cry. We all cope in different ways - but you’re clearly thinking of your Mum as well so when you can you will be there for her. Thinking of you.
Life can be incredibly hard, and the emotions you're feeling at the moment must be exhausting. But it sounds as though your faith will sustain you as things unfold. Being in a different country makes it difficult, but at least there is skype and phoning to make it easier to be closer to your family. When death, inevitably, arrives it is always harder on those of us who are left - it really is the Circle of Life. Many years ago I found a poem by Henry van Dyke called "Gone from my Sight", and it has always given my a sense of peace. I've copied and pasted it here, and hope that it will also help to ease your pain by giving you a different perspective.
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side, spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone." Gone where?
Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast, hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port. Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone," there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"
And that is dying...
I really hope this will give you some comfort x
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