My partner has a BI and I'm not his carer. He had the BI many many years before we got into a relationship. I've been with him for 5 years and on good days he's great - wouldn't know he has a BI at all. On his bad days he struggles with communication, he's angry, he thinks I'm angry, he snaps at the smallest things and he does it without even realising he's being nasty to me.
Today he got me so bad with his snapping and anger that I broke down crying on my way to work and couldn't compose myself. I had to come back home. I've been crying for 2 hours straight. He's since called me to apologise and he's back to his normal self. But I'm still upset and to make it worse today was the one day I couldn't take off from work and now all I've been able to tell my boss is that I need the morning off for "personal reasons". I'm worried I sound like a total slacker but I'd feel like a total traitor to my partner if I explained why I needed the morning off.
I don't have any support for myself. I can't talk to his family because to be frank they're not a close family and they look down on him. I can't talk to my family about it because they'd worry about me and think he's not good for me. I've spoken to a psychologist and the advice I got was that I chose this so I have to accept it.
I've found myself starting to point his communication issues out to him more and more like a bossy parent or like lecturing him - which is not how I should be acting myself - it's not good for either of us or our relationship.
Has anyone here had issues at work because of your loved one's BI affecting you?