Well, my daughter persuaded me to drive me and my husband up to Yorkshire in our motorhome ( the very same one that dropped on my husbands head) to have a relaxing few days with them. I was excited that I'd managed it and looked forward to the lovely weekend, only it couldn't be like that for us. Husband dropped as I was helping him out of the shower and became unresponsive, although his eyes were open. We called 999 and he was taken to the local A&E. I took the Slow Sodium tabs and the Furusimide with me. After hours in A&E with blood tests, scans, urine tests, obs they have finally decided for now that it's low sodium. A Dr told me to stop them last month as his sodium level was 140...now it 123! They're going to do Neuro tests tomorrow to try and find out why it's dropping. The original Neuro hospital said he'd need it for the foreseeable future, yet the rehab disagreed, So now it's ruined our weekend, the first in many months. I'm just feeling so tired and depressed now, I just want to be away from everything. Our life has been ruined by this bloody accident and I'm so angry about it. We're booked to fly to Greece next month for our daughters long awaited wedding. The Consultant said he should go and enjoy it, but I'm now worried about if this should happen there, in another country, we might not even get to the wedding after all and it's going to be a stressful time for everyone.
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Hi, I've just read your message. And I re-read your introductory message. I really feel for you. I feel like you have been getting too many mixed messages from them for some time now when he isn't well. The shower incident and hospital admission will have devastated you with worry. How frightening. Yet you're being told to merrily enjoy yourselves in Greece but it's no surprise you are having doubts. And on top of that it is your daughter's wedding. It's such a difficult set of circumstances. You must be going round in circles in your mind and feel so defeated you cannot reach an answer.
I know the wisdom of others on here will give you comforting words and good advice. I can't give you knowledge about your husband, who I hope is feeling better and gets more help/observation.
For you, I think you need to focus on each hour of each day only over the next week to recover from what happened in Yorkshire. To reduce your stress levels is important. I have a saying that once stress is switched on and becomes anxiety, it is hard to switch off. I know this is easier said than done and you do have a lot to think about and to feel anxious about.
The only thing that has worked for my high anxiety levels is guided meditations, they have given me relief and restfulness. I need the words to help me focus and wind down. The results are restorative. It took me a long time to begin to do one but once I did I wished I had done it sooner. Perhaps it might work for you? And do anything else that makes you feel good. You need to treat yourself with tender loving care. I am concerned that prolonged stress and the emotional aspect of your daughters wedding will cause you to suffer high levels of anxiety and that will affect everything else. I hope I am wrong and that you have coping abilities to get through x
a recommended started guided meditation for the day time
Hi Tin, I usually only comment if I have something constructive to say. This time, I do not, but felt that you need to know that we do understand even when we don't know what to say x
So sorry to hear this TinT. I do hope a few fresh pairs of eyes might prove useful in finding the key to your man's issues. The wrong meds (or incorrect dosage of the right ones) can cause really dramatic side effects.
Best wishes for the correct diagnosis and treatment... Cat x
Thank you for your thoughts and support. Hubby is having tests done and luckily an endocrinologist has got them testing his hormone because the sodium is still dropping. They have found that his Cortisol is low which in turn is dropping the sodium. They're doing frequent blood tests and talking of steroids now. This is all something that would have taken weeks if left to the GP to refer him. So, hopefully this will turn out to be a blessing in disguise. I know I can expect more stress over the next year or so, but it's so hard to have to chase after people to get the care and investigations. They all seem to shrug it off while I'm running around in circles pulling my hair out
TinT.. It's good to know the endocrinologist is getting to the crux of the sodium instability. I hope, as you've suggested, that this anxious turn of events was a blessing after all. Fingers crossed.. Xx
It would be presumptive for anyone to claim they know exactly how you feel TinT. But folk can empathise through their own tragic experiences and can identify with the feelings of hurt, unfairness and loss of their former lives...
Please keep in touch ; we're always here and we care... Cat x
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