YAAAAAY Some good news at last

[bexx87]

My brain injury rehab unit appointment has come though and the talk from HR to my manager has clearly highlighted that this isn't small stuff as the minute I told him fyi I need to take some time off he pointed me to a part of our intranet called:

"

Take time off for medical appointments

What to do if you need regular treatment or time off relating to a disability or long term health issue.

If you’re disabled and need time off for treatment, rehabilitation or assessment, this will not count as sickness absence. Your manager will record this as authorised absence on your timesheets.

You’re disabled under the Equality Act 2010 if you have a physical or mental impairment that has a substantial and long-term negative effect on your ability to do normal daily activities.

You won’t need self-certificates or fit notes but you must give your manager evidence of appointments."

So I scanned the letter and sent it to him as evidence and next week I have my occupation health appointment as well.

And if they don't go into appalling shock on how I have been treated over the past year I will be far from impressed

On a unhappier note my boiler has broken for like the 4th time but luckily my uncle has told me that my mum is in Spain for a few days so I can pop round and have a bath as I am sweating due to this heat and having hot skin making sleeping very disgusting and disturbed.

[RogerCMerriman]

I attually enjoyed my Rehab, I learnt a lot about what had happened. As self analysing is very difficult, I had some surprising results, some things where okay and equally they found problems I didn’t realise exist.

Rehab in proper was done in community or as outpatient still have one the Vestibular.

Hopefully it’s productive for you!

[Cj-195]

Hi bexx87, that is so great. I have nobody to say that for me. After nobody come to help me. 😕

[bexx87 in reply to Cj-195]

Ive had no one to help me for 17 years, every time I need a little bit of help I need to fight for it, everyone one thinks oh you got a high paying flashing civil servant job so you must be 100% okay when the reality is completely different, I was having side effects and my manager trying to get me sacked for poor performance so while my gp and the hospital decide what the cause of this is I requested inorder to keep my job and be productive rather than twiddling my fingers I wanted off the medication and while it has helped my manager still doesn't understand when I recently got pulled in front of HR for going AWOL due to the medication reduction I explained the situation and they forced my manager to refer me to OH, no one helps me with my flat or eating, when I have time off work I can go without talking to a soul for the entire time, if I want to do something I cant rely on anyone I have to do it myself even if it is forced, there have been numerous times where I have wanted to commit suicide than coming in work so please don't make me feel guilty for the fact that I get a tiny bit of good news for the first time in a year if you want the stress sh*t show that is my life please take it from me see how you cope and tell me if you can do a better job

[bexx87 in reply to bexx87]

Life is what you make it, you don't get the perfect life handed to you on a plate, there is no such thing as a free ride, there is nothing called a magic money tree, if you don't like your life you are in complete control to change it.

You think I just walked out hospital and in to a civil servant job? No, I had to endurance TEN years of bulling both before and after my injury, I had to grow up with a alcoholic verbally aggressive mother while dealing with my injury AND puberty, I put in TEN years of college to get here (passed 8 courses and failed 2), I am still paying back a student loan from when I attempted to do a level 5 uni course over 11 years ago, I took 3 years of driving tests, 2 driving centres/school, I failed 6 theory tests and 5 practical tests, used 3 GRAND of savings, I have been unemployed for a year and half and DIDNT get paid dole money, if I want a week away on holiday I have to buy cheap food to save even £100 over the course of many months, I am to force myself to be social, I have to fight my manager on a daily basis, My mum hasn't been to my flat in the 2 years I have been living there, I haven't had a sex life in a year and I have threated to walk out of my job over how I am being treated

[droopybrain123 in reply to bexx87]

Hi Hun, my heart is with you. I totally understand what you’ve been through. 💖💖💖

[Cj-195 in reply to bexx87]

OMG it's scary. Nobody can understand, I've been treating like that from 'professional' people. What a waste to be a care person!!! Working all your life pay the tax. I think to be a scabbing from the gov. all your life would be better. If you disabled I feel that I'm under everybody. 😠😠

[droopybrain123 in reply to Cj-195]

Same here. I had my accident at 54 yrs old. Caused by Council negligence. I was bullied out of my job by my bosses whilst struggling though severe symptoms absolute b’s!!!! . My GP practice should be done for negligence and so should the Medico legal neurologist who blatantly lied on the court medical report. He said it was his belief I had no physical injury. I have a torn alar ligament, brain herniation, deformed brainstem, cranio-cervical instability, subluxed Atlanto-axial facet joint, plus other abnormalities at the cranio-cervical junction. The very place that the NHS do not report on. Oh yes they are happy to image the brain and report that brain scans are normal and happy to image the neck, but the most crucial place Is between these to. The cranio-cervical junction. And they know all about this but are doing sod all about it. So those Neurologists and Neurosurgeons who are on hundreds of thousands a year are more than happy to deny our injuries and leave us without any financial help whatsoever. Whilst they enjoy their riches and fruitful pensions they have well and truly screwed ours by denying our condition. We have lost our careers, any access to benefits or help with state pension contributions, our homes - our whole future is ruined by the very people who earn thousands yet don’t give a f*** about their severe and chronically ill patients!!!

[Cj-195 in reply to droopybrain123]

That's so true. I help so much work overtime without more pay. They want a letter from the doctor who do the operation. I seen him twice in 4 yrs. I join in a club who lies to get money. No wonder the mental health is busy. 😕😠

[brumatmed]

Nice one Bex, at last it seems as though the manager may have to take your 'invisible injury' seriously (before it bites him on the bum!!). As I said last week, as long as you have a pre declared condition, BCC employed both you and it, as a result BCC cannot complain when it 'acts up' for want of a better phrase - a bit like you having a kitten which demands attention by hanging off your curtains (you got the kitten to serve a purpose - company/ pest controller or whatever, unfortunately, you have to put up with 'the dark side' as its all part of the same package) and BCC hired you not only for your intelligence and skill [company/ pest controller or whatever] but also for the equalities statistic [hanging off the curtains] - I personally think that is quite a good analogy. (And its not underlined in red which means I spelt analogy right) YAAAAAY Indeed. Take it easy Bru

[bexx87 in reply to brumatmed]

Yup i know i am sick of reminding them you knew what baggage i came with and you still hired me but it wasnt my manager that hired me it was senior management that hired me and senior managermenr admitted to my mental health support worker that my manager doesnt understand mental health hence why im caught in the cross fire of manager verses senior manager and what to do with me and the nhs and dwp are trying to calm it down and my mental health support worker which i gave you the contact details for has also joined the fight to make my manager understand the perspective of why senior managerment hired my 9 years ago but my manager seems to think he jas the same power as the senior manager and can cut me loose but thats what the resturcture is changing and is taking away that power from him which is why he is trying to get me sacked while he still has that fake power (if that makes sense) and senior management are trying to keep me within the company by hinting to me to start climbing the corprate ladder but i told him i need time to redo my cv as it hasnt been touched in 9 years bc it is being used up with getting my mental health under control all in the present of hr and my mental health support worker

But the more time i have off the less money i get and you would think uc would kick in but nooooo im still earning "too much" despite the fact i cant afford to cook ect for myself so while i am still paying rent i am going round neighbours houses for food / washing /laundry ect which feels really weird as my mum cant help me due to the fact her brother has my spot in the house since i moved out (and my uncle is techinally homeless so i dont want to make him feel bad but he isnt happy with living with his sister like im not happy living with my mum)

[brumatmed]

In addressing your comments further down your next post (under CJ-185) CJ-185 seems to think that others should help him/ her. (and why not), but the hard truth is that the only help your going to get stands in front of you in a mirror. You are right in so many ways but I have heard you a few times where you are dispirited (I abhor the word 'depressed' as I really believe it is overused - a bit like 'literally' or the word 'like' by youths - particularly on line girls) or upset, where you almost appear to feel the need to 'blame' others for your TBI. It is worth remembering that EVEN your manager may not be able to comprehend an invisible injury. I know he is a bit of a tool but how about cutting him a bit of slack. Home time, see you on Wednesday but I will probably write before

[bexx87]

My manager was nipping at my heels asking me do everything and I snapped and said I'm not a octopus and I've been very hot and my boiler was broke (again) so I feel dirty but the boiler is now fixed and the shower was amazing so I'm back happy I didn't mean to snap I just get very sensitive on certain topics